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NEWS

In Communication, Movies, News, Self Improvement, TV Shows on July 31, 2012 at 9:01 am

She had weed in her backpack

Not just any kind of weed but a very high grade of weed. She called me on the phone frantic saying, “Mommi! Mommi! Someone put weed in my backpack!” I was asleep when I answered the call and hearing my child scream those words on the other end woke me up quicker than a triple expresso shot. I was up, dressed, and wearing Mac Ruby Woo lipstick when I arrived at her school 12 minutes after the call.

10:30 am — I enter the VP’s office just in time to see a SECURITY Representative going through the contents of my childs book bag. …click here to continue

It used to be ALL GOOD in my Hood

K104 has been [97.9] BEAT OUT

It hasn’t been the same since NANNETT LEE & a few other names…

[RADIO in Dallas, TX] What happened here? Dallas was known for playing the crunkest street jams on the radio and K104was at the helms.

The year was 1993 – SKIP MURPHY was on the scene and NANNETT LEE was a part of The K104 Morning Team. The laughs were great, the community support was fantastic and no one could rally up the people for a good cause better than K104 and The Morning Team. It’s true. They became an a.m. staple. Only K104 could start the day off with a corny inspirational “I LOVE SCHOOL” song sung by sunday school kids and have the whole community not only ‘love it’ but actually look forward to it at the start of their day. Once in the car and in route to work/school the a.m. chemistry and 4-1-1 couldn’t be beat. We laughed. We cried. Sometimes we laughed until we cried — and the community was on one accord. …click here to continue the K104 read

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FINANCIAL Mistakes COUPLES Make

He with THE MOST MONEY WINS and according to financialhighway.com, these missteps are commonplace for couples trying to secure their finances:

No Budget
Not having a budget is the quickest way to financial ruin. Set up a household budget to track your expenses, build your savings, manage your investments and review finances with your spouse each week so that you are both helping to create financial stability for your family. …click here to continue reading

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SHAVOO’s in DARK BLUE


Next Day Air‘s SHAVOO is DARK BLUE‘s Cast Co-star: Omari Hardwick (he plays Ty Curtis) . Thank God for TNT. After seeing , Next Day Air with Mos Def, Donald Faison (from Scrubbs), Mike Epps, and Darius McCrary (from Family Matter, Y&R [current], and SUPERHEAD), I developed a craving for a little more SHAVOO. Merci agréable.

I didn’t know it then, but I do know now, he’s a SOUTHERN BOY. Born and raised in Savannah, GA. Ow! I couldn’t pick a sweeter peach to call eye candy. Mm-mm-mm.
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METABOLIC Miser

In Communication, Griot, Networking, News, Science, Self Improvement on July 31, 2012 at 9:00 am

A miser is a person that hoards. Is that you? Are you hoarding your metabolic rate instead of contributing to it? So your car has a great engine, but you don’t appreciate it like you should. You don’t change your oil? You don’t run it properly? Are you giving it the good petro or the cheap stuff?

Your metabolism is your bodys motor. It’s beautiful. However the TUNE-UPS and products you use are what keeps it running like new, ..ie, ‘My God you haven’t gained a pound since high school. It’s must be your diet.’

Diet isn’t a bad word unless your eating habits are. Which also translate to, ‘Your car isn’t a crappy car, it’s the way that you’re caring for it (or lack of)’.

“As we age, we develop a gunk build-up in the hoses and valves, that need flushing every now and then to perform at our most optimum levels.”

I grew up on home cook meals daily and then on Friday nights my mom would order up pizza or take us to Micky D’s or something. Saturday was left over night and every Sunday was a feast fit for royalty. As I got older my Mom started letting us have more of “say so” in our diet. It was great then, though now I question our adolescent wisdom and my contribution to my own health declination. We started a pop culture in the kitchen that included home cooked meals at leas 4 times a week and fast food on the other 3. We continued to chop away at the good and necessary foods until it was a nightly thing for us to do drive thru at a variety of fast food joints (that now rule the better part of most major roads in every major city). End result, less healthy and prone to holding fat.

I graduated at 120 bounds and 5’2 tall. I wasn’t model perfect. I was pencil like and lacked curves. Curves [and some] is what I sport today. Yeah. I did it. And while my motor is a high revving one with energy to boot – it’s not what it used to be. Going to bed by 10pm is something I do religiously. A few years back, that was not a norm. I was a late owl (sometimes as late 2am or so), who was never late to my 7am class the next morning. Now I turn in at 10pm and while I’m up bright eye’d and bushy tailed by 5:30am, I am usually in need of a nap by noon. It’s about that time that I start to run of gas. I didn’t want to admit it before, but I’m going to do it here today – I think it’s my diet.

In the interest of dropping the sluggish feeling I’ve opted to pay attention to my motor. My metabolism isn’t what it used to be. I’ve been making a myriad of bad food choices that have contributed to the gunk build up that suppresses my metabolic rate. So how do I get the fire blazing agin?

I won’t bore you talking about my morning smoothie of protein, wheat germ, flaxseeds, rasberries, blueberries, pineapple, fresh spinach leaves, vanilla yogurt and soy milk, but such a small change in my diet quickly resulted in lighter moods and clearer thoughts. So clear that I have noticed an increase in concentration to project completions. On the flip side I’ve also noticed that right before bed, I still crave chips. I gave in to the urge last week, after not eating any chips for about 3 weeks. The sodium content was inhumane, (I’m sure). I noticed the bloat. My guy didn’t. But I did. I could feel it too.

Let’s not go there again. So now I’m tasked with following my good diet throughout the day and straight to bed time. It may seem elementary for you, but for me this is task, if I want to jump start my metabolism.

Click here:
Kick Start that Metabolism

While my youth is about me, I’m trying to get an understanding.
When it’s comes to looking good – Priority is demanding.

I’m a lady of leisure (for sure) who enjoys eating out like everyone else,
but I’ve got to do something different – if I want to continue to look my best.

My breakfast is on point and my bedtime snack needs to go.
I’m Qui
I’ve been harboring my motor – but I’m not ‘gone do it no ‘mo.

Here’s a list of foods that help start the metabolism too:
15 FOODS
Enjoy!

NEWS

In Communication, Griot, Movies, Networking, News, Science, TV Shows on July 27, 2012 at 11:48 am

He’s a BAD MOTHER…

LaTanya calls him Sam.

LaTanya calls him Sam.

Samuel L. Jackson is a bad mother — and he will never shut his mouth. The multibillion dollar man takes aim at President Obama and Hollywood, and dares you to say something. Kevin Powell reports:

Samuel L. Jackson barks at me, sternly, his almond-colored deep set eyes weighted with history, mythology and Black folktales, scanning me quickly, methodically, as I respond, feebly, “Uh, my friend, the visual artist Radcliffe Bailey said to call…”

“Say, man, my wife said you called her. What’s up with that?”

Before I could finish, Jackson strips the tension with a devilish smile, shakes my hand and returns to posing for the photo shoot.

As Pandora spits a soul medley of James Brown, Curtis Mayfield, The Isley Brothers and Sly and the Family Stone, there is Sam, forever in his beloved Armani, firing up smoke, flames dancing from the cigar and the match thisclose to burning his finger. There is Sam tossing hats at the photographer’s lens, his bald head bobbing and weaving with each flick. click here to continue reading about SAM

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WHAT’S HAPPENING with DEE

Hey-Hey-Hey! Remember the old WHAT’S HAPPENING series from the late seventies? If you’ve never known it, get familiar: via AMAZON. Remember Rogers little sister Dee? I do. There was one line in particular that I remember [that still cracks me up to this day], it was in an episode where the high school teen Roger was tasked with baby sitting his little sister Dee, (Mom – played by MABLE KING worked the night shift), but Roger wanted to go to a party with Rerun and Dwayne, so he called Millie (the aging babysitter) over to watch Dee instead. Once Dee found out Roger was going out anyway, she threatened to run away, by saying to Roger,
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Yes – I used to do PUFF ‘N STUFF

Were you into it to? You can tell me. I won’t tell anyone. …click here to rehash it all

FINANCIAL Mistakes COUPLES Make

In Communication, Griot, Networking, News, Self Improvement on July 27, 2012 at 7:00 am

He with THE MOST MONEY WINS and according to financialhighway.com, these missteps are commonplace for couples trying to secure their finances:

> No Budget
Not having a budget is the quickest way to financial ruin. Set up a household budget to track your expenses, build your savings, manage your investments and review finances with your spouse each week so that you are both helping to create financial stability for your family. Get started today with a software program to help manage our finances.

>Failing to Plan for Emergencies
Whether it’s a leaky roof repair, a job layoff or new brakes for the car, emergencies will always happen. Set up two emergency funds: one with six months fo living expenses in case you lose your job and another one with sufficient cash to cover any unexpected costs.

>Money Secrets
Any secret in a marriage is a mistake, and financial secrets are the most common. Do not keep shopping sprees, credit card or debt or other financial problems from your spouse. You’re a team.

>Lack of Communication
Communicating about your finances is just as important as communicating about any other issue in your relationship. Use your weekly budget review meeting to discuss any concerns you may have so that you can address it as a couple and move on.

>Giving Up Control
It’s important that both parties are equally involved in making financial decisions so that you are both aware of your financial situation and you can plan to effectively tackle any challenges.

Caveat! Do not be a victim to any financial pit falls,
I’m Qui
You have to KEEP THE MOST MONEY – if you intend to ball.

[Ref. Source: Ebony Magazine]
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Let’s talk ULTRABOOKS

No longer do you have to compromise on speed when you buy a sleek, thin laptop. Ultrabooks come with the power of 2nd Generation Intel Core processors (intel.com), and they’re less than 1-inch thick.

There are a few that come to mind off the cuff: Samsung Series 5 BPU530u4b-A01US with 2nd Gen Intel Core i5 processor, Dell XPS13-0015SLV with 2nd Gen Intel Core i5 processor, Toshiba Portege with 2nd Gen Intel Core i3 processor, and the Asus Zenbook UX31-RSL8 with 2nd Gen Intel Core i5 processor.

There are 3 things to look for when shopping for a new lap device: Performance, Style & Design, and Responsiveness. …click here to continue

NEWS

In Communication, Griot, Movies, Networking, News, Self Improvement on July 26, 2012 at 9:15 pm

ICE-T on The ART of RAP

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It’s still lunch time in the life of RAP MUSIC and while reading Ebony Magazine [July 2012], I came across a caption that read, “Where’s the beef? Finally, a documentary focusing on the process of Hip-Hop”.

Sounds interesting enough. It caught my attention – so I read on: ..click here to read more

Introducing The ALCHEMIST

I first learned of the book, “THE ALCHEMIST” by Paulo Coelho a few years back when Will Smith raved about its simplicity on The Tavis Smiley [Talk] Show.

Had you ever heard of the book …Click here to read more

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Negro Please!

So I’m reading EBONY Magazine (in paper form because I’m old school) and on page 36 I see Henry Louis Gates Jr. discussing DNA and why the majority of us have Caucasion– not Native American– blood.
Adrienne Samuels Gibbs reports:

here is one major misconception that Black people need to stop perpetuating about our history, says Henry Louis Gates Jr., the boisterous Harvard professor, prolific writer and TV personality who is soon to unveil a new season of Finding Your Roots on PBS.
“In all my series and work, I’ve only found one guest who actually descended from a Native American,” says Gates. “The biggest myth in African-American genealogy is, “My grand-great grandmother had high cheek bones and straight black hair.”

He even gave away 10,000 free DNA testing kits to upper-class Black businessmen to prove his point. “Brothers in the streets say DNA don’t lie,” says Gates. “[At this event,] 1500 Negroes in three piece suits lined up all day to spit [into a DNA collection tube]. I told them, ‘None of you Negroes got Native American ancestry. …click here to continue

PERUSE

In News on July 26, 2012 at 9:15 pm

Facebook: Friends and Lovers

The social networking site could be the best (or worst) thing to ever happen to your dating life. Follow these do’s and don’ts.

In addition to helping families, classmates and co-workers stay in contact, Facebook has a huge impact on building intimate relationships. But that’s not to say it makes “the love game” any simpler; in fact, it adds another layer of complexity. Ignore certain unspoken rules, and you’ll face severe consequences. …click here to continue

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Black People need SUNSCREEN too

Photo Flipbook Slideshow MakerDear brother with the clean bald head: Have you been wondering why the skin on the top of your head is peeling? And LaBella Mocha Sister: How’s that nose-peeling-thing working out for ya?

Forfeit the scaly and unhealthy look by regularly applying sunscreen to your [un]crackable cells of melanin. That means applying it throughout the day – like every 4 hours. I bracketed [un]crackable, because there has long been a syaing that “BLACK DON’T CRACK”. Well I’m black and um… in the face of global warming and the recent years loss of protective ozone layers, “Black is starting to crack”. But take heart, your resilient skin, just doesn’t have to turn into old shoe leather, SUN SCREEN SPF50 does wonders in protecting your mocha brown skin. The higher the SPF number the more it protects you from soaking up the suns rays. So what are the other [lower] SPF’s for? Sun tanning purposes. For our lighter skinned fam [white people] …click here to continue

NEWS

In News on July 26, 2012 at 9:15 pm

Sex & The Senses

Think about it: How hot would your sex life be if you couldn’t touch your partner’s body? Hear his voice? Or see his face? We’re guessing pretty bland. Your five senses—hearing, sight, smell, touch and taste—play a significant role in creating arousal and enjoying sex. “One of the biggest reasons why sex becomes routine is because people stop paying attention to their senses,” says Sari Cooper, a okay certified sex therapist in New York City. “But to fully experience sex in a mindful way, you have to awaken all your senses.”

Want to turn up the heat in your bedroom tonight? Try these sensory-stimulating tips.

Sight

Your ability to see lets you appreciate a guy’s drool-worthy physical features (his broad shoulders, dimples or abs) that drew you to him in the first place, but …click here to read more

The Benefits of LUNCH

Today I decided to cook lunch, rather than do take out. Besides I’m on a tight budget and all that I had in the freezer was ground beef, turkey burger patties, frozen fruit (strawberries, raspberries, blueberries, mangos, pineapple, peaches) and chicken. I went with the chicken, thawed out a few strawberries, pulled fresh spinach from the fridge that I bought last night and mixed up a balsamic vinegarett and tah-dahhh! Lunch is served and the fam is looking at me like I’m a winner.

The delicious & scrumptious meal is low fat, low calorie & high in goodness as it pertains to what your body needs. The bonus: ….click here to read more

ICE-T on The ART of RAP

In Communication, Griot, Movies, Music, Networking on July 25, 2012 at 8:54 am

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It’s still lunch time in the life of RAP MUSIC and while reading Ebony Magazine [July 2012], I came across a caption that read, “Where’s the beef? Finally, a documentary focusing on the process of Hip-Hop”.

Sounds interesting enough. It caught my attention – so I read on:

t would be a mistake to consider Ice-T’s first foray into the world of the documentary as just another hip-hop film. it’s different: It doesn’t care about beef’s or why so-and-so broke up or which rapper doesn’t like such-and-such. Rather, “Something From Nothing: The Art of Rap discusses the elements of hip-hop, how rhymes are made and how rhythms are born.

Musicians, hip-hop aficionados, and casual fans alike will appreciate Grandmaster Caz and Eminem’s description of how they make their rhymes and why they select the words they do. Rakim, Q-Tip, Immortal Technique, KRS-One and other granddaddies of rap explain their inventions. Here’s what Ice, now 54, had to say the latest endeavor, which is in theaters now.

“If your favorite rapper isn’t in it,
he ain’t in my address book.”

Why do this film?
Hip-hop started to dilute itself and [became] pop. I know I couldn’t get my point across in an interview or in a record I always wanted to direct movies. It was for me to interview my peers and break down what rap is to them and why it’s an art form that needs to be respected. It took two years to get everybody on film. Our only goal was to get it to Sundance. Now it’s coming out in theaters.

Although there are many big names in the movie, some are conspicuously absent, most notably, many rappers in today charts.
I didn’t interview anybody I didn’t know. All the people in the movie came out of my address book. This movie isn’t about seeing your favorite rappers; It’s more about seeing my favorite rappers. If your favorite rapper isn’t in it, he ain’t in my address book.

You’ve been in the game for a long time.
If you’re 18 now, then when I started on Law and Order: SUV, you were 5 years old. You don’t know about N.W.A. You don’t know about RUN-DMC. But there’s always that person who knows me from “Cop Killer” or gangsta rap, but it’s beautiful because that’s one of the reasons I’ll always be Ice-T. Even as an actor, I want people to know, I think that’s why Queen Latifah kept the Queen [even though she’s now primarily an actor]. I’m Ice-T till the wheels fall off.
[–ASG]


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I haven’t seen the documentary yet, though please believe I will within the next few days.
I’m a connoisseur of GOOD HEAD and for too long “sufficient rap” has been on-the-stay.

It used to speak to my mind and occasionally speak to my soul
and made me feel that WORDS were a pleasure to behold.

But nowadays, the radio’s constant rotating play
Is lack luster, a dream buster – yielding loads of verbal nays.

I eventually ditched the lyrics and opted for the instrumentals instead.
Then I realized I was missing the heart of proactive verbs in my head.

So I began to free style, constructing my own bars in Griot,
I’m Qui
and now that the documentary’s out – I’ll happily fare the reel ‘GO’.
Ice-T has the GOOD HEAD —>ya know?

Introducing The ALCHEMIST

In Book, Communication, Networking, News, Science, Self Improvement on July 23, 2012 at 10:26 am

I first learned of the book, “THE ALCHEMIST” by Paulo Coelho a few years back when Will Smith raved about its simplicity on The Tavis Smiley [Talk] Show.

Had you ever heard of the book and/or its author? Well let me tell you a little bit about the author, and then I’ll share the books introduction pages with you to light the fire under your go-getter-bottom, so that you continue to WIN today. No limitations. Now about the author:

I encourage you to get the book and be The ALCHEMIST in your life – if you’re not already doing so. I wouldn’t live life any other way. Having said as much, please enjoy the following INTRODUCTION from the book “The Alchemist”::

remember receiving a letter from the American Publisher Harper Collins that said that: “reading The Alchemist was like getting up at dawn and seeing the sun rise while the rest of the world slept,” I went outside, looked up at the sky, and thought to myself: “So, the book is going to be published in English!” At the time, I was struggling to establish myself as a writer and to follow my path despite all the voices telling me it was impossible.

And little by little, my dream was becoming reality. Ten, a hundred, a thousand, a million copies sold in America. One day, a Brazilian journalist phoned to say that President Clinton had been photographed reading the book. Some time later, when I was in Turkey, I opened the magazine Vanity Fair magazine and there was Julia Roberts declaring that she adored the book. Walking alone down a street in Miami, I heard a girl telling her mother: “You must read The Alchemist!”

The book has been translated into fifty-six languages, has sold more than twenty million copies, and people are beginning to ask: What’s the secret behind such a huge success?

The only honest response is: I don’t know. All I know is that, like Santiago the shepherd boy, we all need to aware of our personal calling. What is a personal calling? It is Gods blessing, it is the path that God chose for you here on Earth. Whenever we do something that fills us with enthusiasm, we are following our legend. However, we don’t all have the courage to confront our own dream.

Why?

There are four obstacles. First: we are told from childhood onward that everything we want to do is impossible. We grow up with this idea and as the years accumulate, so do the layers of prejudice, ear, and guilt. There comes a time when our personal calling is so deeply buried in our soul as to be invisible. But it’s still there.

If we have to courage to disinter dream, we are then faced by the second obstacle: love. We know what we want to do, but are afraid of hurting those around us by abandoning everything in order to pursue our dream. We do not realize that love is just a further impetus, not something that will prevent us going forward. We do not realize that those who genuinely wish us well want us to be happy and are repaired to accompany us on that journey.

Once we have accepted that love is a stimulus, we come up against the third obstacle: fear of the defeats we will meet on the path. We who fight for our dream suffer far more when it doesn’t work out, because we cannot fall back on the old excuse: “Oh, well, I didn’t really want it anyway.” We do want it and know that we have staked everything on it and that the path of the personal calling is no easier than any other path, except that our whole heart is in this journey. Then, we warriors of light must be prepared to have patience in difficult times and to know that the Universes conspiring in our favor, even though we may not understand how.

I ask myself: are defeats necessary?

Well, necessary or not, they happen. When we first begin fighting for our dream, we have no experience and begin make many mistakes. The secret of life, though, is to fall seven times and to get up eight times.

So, why is it so important to live our personal calling if we are only going to suffer more than other people?

Because, once we have overcome the defeats— and we always do— we are filled by a greater sense of euphoria and confidence. In the silence of our hearts, we know that we are proving ourselves worthy of the miracle of life. Each day, each hour, is part of the good fight. We start to live with enthusiasm and pleasure. Intense, unexpected suffering passes more quickly than suffering that is apparently bearable; the latter goes on for years and, without our noticing, eats away at our soul, until, one day, we are no longer able to free ourselves from the bitterness and it stays with us for the rest of our lives.

Have disinterred our dream, having used the power of love to nurture it and spent many years living with the scars, we suddenly notice that what we always wanted is there, waiting for us, perhaps the very next day. Then comes the fourth obstacle: the fear of realizing the dream for which we fought all our lives.

Oscar Wilde said: “Each man kills the thing he loves.” And it’s true. The mere possibility of getting what we want fills the soul of the ordinary person with guilt. We look around at all those who have failed to get that they want and feel that we do not deserve to get what we want either. WE forgot about all the obstacles we overcame, all the suffering we endured, all the things we had to give up in order to get this far. I have known a lot of people who, when their personal calling was within their grasp, went on to commit a series of stupid mistakes and never reached their goal– when it was only a step away.

This is the most dangerous of the obstacles because it has a kind of saintly aura about it: renouncing joy and conquest. But if you believe yourself worthy of the thing you fought so hard to get, then you become an instrument of God, you help the Soul of the World, and you understand why you are here.

Paulo Coelho
Rio de Janeiro
November 2002
Translated by Margaret Jull Costa

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It’s pretty good stuff and a pretty quick read,
I’m Qui
Sharing my book
with the hopes to sow a good seed.
Ooo wee.

Facebook: Friends and Lovers

In Communication, Griot, Networking, News, Self Improvement on July 20, 2012 at 10:18 am

The social networking site could be the best (or worst) thing to ever happen to your dating life. Follow these do’s and don’ts.

In addition to helping families, classmates and co-workers stay in contact, Facebook has a huge impact on building intimate relationships. But that’s not to say it makes “the love game” any simpler; in fact, it adds another layer of complexity. Ignore certain unspoken rules, and you’ll face severe consequences. For instance, “poke” someone you’re newly interested in, and you’re likely to be ignored or even blocked. Although the feature is a cute way of saying hello to someone familiar, poking a stranger can be perceived as stalking. always observe Facebook etiquette! My advice:

>Do reveal yourself– when you’re ready. Understand that by friending someone new, you’ll likely open a wide window into each other’s life. Within moments of an accepted friend request, you will be granted access to each other’s interests, likes and dislikes, friends and potentially, hundreds of photos dating back years. The new time line feature shifts even more attention to a user’s history. This can be a wonderful tool for learning about someone, but accept or offer that friend request only when you’re comfortable with sharing your won past and a peek into your intimate circle.

>Don’t show signs of digital desperation. Amongst the most infamous Facebook trends is a behavioral phenomenon known as “thirst.” Thirst refers to the desperate and sometimes animal-like behavior that happens when one becomes infatuated with another. Examples of “Facebook thirst” include when all photos and posts are immediately “liked” by a certain individual and when someone repeatedly comments, messages and posts. Men are notorious for being “thirsty”, which has caused many women to shy away from Facebook. You’re not off scot-free, ladies. Hand-in-hand with “thirsty men” are “attention-mongering women.” Posting photos of yourself dressed and posed provocatively attracts their attention.

>Don’t penetrate a tactless tag Any photos taken without implied secrecy, such as posed group shots, should be OK for sharing and tagging online. If a romantic interest requests that you not tag him or her in photos, he or she may be a private person. It could also be a sign that he or she may have something to hide from another lover. Unwillingness to be seen with you in cyberspace (let alone the real world) is problematic if you wish to establish a serious relationship. Evaluate whether a prospective mate sees that same potential in you.

>Don’t feel compelled to post your relationship status It is certainly possible to be officially a couple if you’re not “FB official”. Choosing to parade your relationship status and post girlfriend/boyfriend photos is up to you both. I personally do not recommend posting a relationship status unless one is married. (Simply omitting all relationship prompts will remove it from your profile altogether). Break ups and make ups are so common; why make yourself the pity of all your friends when you go from “in a relationship: to “single”? Save the heartache!

>Do consider de-friending your ex out of respect for the new relationship Although you may be on good terms with your ex, it is a gesture of respect to your current mate to cut ties with past lovers. This goes for online and off-line.

>Don’t use Facebook to snoop on a lover– that is unless there’s a justifiable reason! Has he or she been acting strangely? Have there been sudden schedule changes or unexplained absences? Although your ‘boo’ may use a lover’s inbox to send “the juicy stuff”, it might be worth taking a glance at his or her new wall posts. Posts that include flirting, pet name calling and the like may be red flags.

>Don’t break up on Facebook! A few years ago, a girlfriend of mine changed her status from “in a relationship” to “single” to indicate she was breaking up. This is cruel and embarrassing — especially without any prior notice. Never do online what you should do in person.

[Ref source: I don’t remember in which checkout publication I read this nifty bite of info. but I knew you’d dig it, so I had to share it.]

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Facebook is chalk full of fathers and mothers
Is it really necessary to parade any lovers?

I used to dig Facebook before it was cool,
Now it’s chalk full of thirsters that stalk you & drool.

There are tweens, and teens, and toddlers too;
It’s not necessary [new mom] – even if they are cute.

Your boss has a page and the business alike,
Their peeping your pictures and reading what you write.
I’m just not sure this is something I like.

So personally, I’ve backed off. I’m a light Facebook hitter,
I’m Qui

and on the real, I’ve taken my game on over to Twitter.
If you Tweet —> Then HIT her! [@MizQui]