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In Communication, Griot, Networking, News, Politics, Science, Self Improvement on August 6, 2012 at 10:19 am

The Month of L E O

By: Susan Miller

Happy birthday, dear Leo! This is your month, and you should be feeling in fine form. The month starts off with high emotions, all of them happy, for a big tender full moon will fall in your relationship sector on August 1. This full moon is one of the best of the year, for Jupiter, giver of gifts and luck, will send a direct beam to the Sun from your house of hopes and wishes. Finally, it seems like the pieces of your puzzle are falling perfectly into place, and you can look forward to a more joyous future!…click here for more on those BIRTHDAY LEO’s

You are ONLINE – Forget about Privacy

Do you Facebook?

Remember that old MJ jam, “I always feel like somebody’s watching me“? Well, if you’re online, the chances are highly likely that someone is watching you. Even if its just the cookie snatchers.
“Our privacy laws have not kept up as technology has changed the way we hold information.” Most engines record your searches, keeping record on you and your searches for months, or even years. …click here to continue the read


She had weed in her backpack

Not just any kind of weed but a very high grade of weed. She called me on the phone frantic saying, “Mommi! Mommi! Someone put weed in my backpack!” I was asleep when I answered the call and hearing my child scream those words on the other end woke me up quicker than a triple expresso shot. I was up, dressed, and wearing Mac Ruby Woo lipstick when I arrived at her school 12 minutes after the call.

10:30 am — I enter the VP’s office just in time to see a SECURITY Representative going through the contents of my childs book bag. …click here to continue


Everybody Knows The War is Over and the Good Guys Lost

It was during that period when everyone ran around spending money they didn’t have, to buy shit they didn’t need, in order to impress people they didn’t like, that suicide rates went through the roof, proof that money does not equal happiness, perhaps? And it was this period that the health system fell apart, the horror stories emerged like some celebrity from Kim Kardashian’s pussy, all limp, lifeless and covered in spunk and pussy juices, we heard of how patients with cancer were told they were fine and patients with no cancer were told they had six months to live, some were sent for treatment for a disease they didn’t have.

This wasn’t just a shortage of beds, waiting lists as long as tomorrow, this was human stupidity, but  no one gets punished, not in Ireland, where every day during the Celtic Tiger, during the Boom, just before the bang, was like a really good night out, you know the kind …click here to continue



Politics – Film – Television – Music – Books – Art – Technology

The Advocate

I subscribe to EBONY Magazine because… well… I’m EBONY and the information in their publications are highly relatable. While reading the HOLLYWOOD ISSUE I came up on page 29 and an awesome column that I thought I’d share wit you. It’s called Occupy the Hood. it started online and has already spread from New York City across the country. It now has some 15,000 followers on Twitter and chapters in cities including Detroit, Pittsburgh, Boston, Seattle, Philadelphia, Atlanta, Dallas, New Orleans, Cincinnati, St. Louis, Cleveland, Chicago, Washington, D.C. and Los Angeles.

The Occupy the Hood motto: “We are the most affected of the 99 percent.” It’s a spin-off of Occupy Wall Street’s “99 percent” mantra against America’s increasing wealth gap, where Occupiers state that one percent of the population has the majority of the nation’s wealth. Occupy the Hood protesters believe Blacks should be even angrier than Whites in the 99 percent because people of color, particularly in low income areas, have been disproportionately affected by high unemployment, incarceration and fallout from the housing bust.

The facts support their claims: …click here to continue


Finan¢ial Parenting

It’s one of life’s little mysteries: how two kids raised by the same parents could develop distinct ideas about saving and spending. But new research, the Arizona Pathways to Life Success for University Students (APLUS) study, is shedding light on the phenomenon. In fact, Soyeon Shim, Ph.D., developed APLUS while raising her teens, one cautious and one risk taking, after noticing the lack of qualitative information on young people’s money habits.

It turns out kids develop one of three distinct money identities: pathfinder, drifter, or follower. Each behavior has its own pattern of strengths and weaknesses affecting what kids know and how they use it. Overcoming the weaknesses ensures that kids get their wallets under control and don’t… click here to learn more

How to Spot & Remove SPIRIT DRAINERS

In Communication, Griot, Networking, News, Self Improvement on August 6, 2012 at 10:16 am


Are your FRIENDSHIPS good for you?

Let’s talk FRIENDSHIP. Remember that? You were introduced to the idea of “friendship” in daycare and the concept has been with you every since. Some friends are positive keepers and some friends are energy reapers.

Which one are you and how can you change the tide, or at least unplug yourself from the drain gang?

Life Strategist Valorie Burton explains How to Spot and Remove SPIRIT DRAINERS in your circle:
hich friend’s name do you dread seeing pop up on your caller ID? If you’re like many, there’s at least one toxic friendship taking up space in your life. Here’s how one of my clients handled that.

When a woman I’ll call Stephanie mentioned her friend Angela, I could hear the stress in her voice . Angela had used Stephanie as her personal crutch for every crisis– and there was always a crisis. One summer after Angela’s care broke down, Stephanie took her to work every day for nearly three months. angela didn’t even offer gas money. Stephanie was resentful but never said anything. Then there were the breakups– four in one year alone. Stephanie listened agreeably to Angela’s complaining and chimed in with the occasional, “He did what? Oh no, he didn’t!” But whenever Stephanie called on Angela during a challenge, the listening ear was seldom reciprocated.

Now Angela, was in another “crisis,” this time at work. Her boss had given her a bad review citing Angela’s poor communication skills and moody behavior. Angela contemplated leaving the job and wanted Stephanie’s help in landing a position at her company, a move Stephanie knew would be disastrous. With professional consequences at stake, Stephanie finally mustered up the courage to have a heart-to-heart with Angela. During the conversation, the truth was revealed: Angela felt entitled to Stephanie’s pity, in part because Stephanie had a happy marriage and a job she loved. Angela was jealous of Stephanie, and that envy led her to dump on her so-called friend. In short, the friendship had become toxic.

In our culture, we use the term “friend” loosely; it can include a casual work buddy or a lifelong bestie. But not all connections are created equal, and it’s important to get clear about what makes a healthy friendship, a mutually encouraging connection that inspires us toward our best. And why is that so crucial to our wellness? Because, according to Gallup research, people who have at least three or four very close friends are not only more engaged in their work, but they’re also more healthy overall.

As you sort out the siphoners from the uplifters, coach yourself with these questions:

1. Does the friendship energize me or drain me?

If you feel restored in the company of friend, that’s a connection worth keeping. On the other hand, if you have to give yourself a mental pep talk before the two of you get together, that’s an enormous red flag. Either have a chat about what’s not working for you or make a decision yourself from the friendship.

2. Can I trust this person?

There’s no such thing as a pal you can’t trust. Someone who isn’t reliable or doesn’t keep your confidences isn’t your friend, so come up with another description. Maybe he or she is your associate. Acquaintance. Neighbor. Classmate. But he or she is definitely not your friend.

3. Do I actually like this person?

People become friends with others for all sorts of reasons — convenience, association, benefits. It’s so much easier to develop and maintain a strong bond with those you respect, like and share some core values with. So do a gut check. Would you want this person in your life even if he or she brought you no other advantage than the joy of his or her presence.

4. Am I myself this person?

If you can’t pull out your hairpins, kick off your socks and be your full self in a relationship, what’s the point? Real friends accept you where you were while supporting you in becoming even better. There’s no judgment. If you’re anxious in someone’s company, or you feel the need to hide or impress, that’s a problem– and often a signal that you need to move on.

That’s exactly the path my client Stephanie eventually chose. After a frank conversation with Angela, she realized just how poisonous their connection had become — and how she herself had contributed to the unhealthy relationship dynamic by not speaking up for herself. The two are still acquaintances who see each other occasionally. That leaves Stephanie with an invaluable gift: the energy to invest in an authentic friendship.

5. Is the friendship a two-way street?

In an authentic relationship, support should be extended. Give generously — and receive graciously.

[Ref. Source: Ebony Magazine]

The ladies on the picture are all pretty – no doubt.
And relating with FRIENDS is what it’s all about.

But at what cost? It should be a give and take.
A friendship is a street that goes two ways.

Don’t get stuck in a rut of always giving
When the counter gratitude returns unwilling.

I’m guilty of giving without asking in return.
But I do so with an open heart. It protects me from getting burned.

I like doing random acts of kindness. Good nature is solid in my DNA.
Though with wisdom aboard, I forgo the “take advantage of Qui” stage.

I don’t mind hugging a few drainers, I have a lot of good energy to give.
I don’t mind sharing at all – if it brightens the life that they live.

But I do mind them taking in excess, long pass the equator sum.
I do expect them to be sensitive to ‘wearing out their welcome.’

If we’re friends – It’s just that. We’re not dating, lovers or married.
So if I don’t extend parental charms – perhaps because it’s not my seed you carried.

It takes a village to raise a child and if you need me – do call upon.
But do not take issue with me, if I don’t ‘put in’ on righting their wrongs.

I love you and mean it – but I have to keep it real.
I’m digging you and our friendship too, but lop sided stuff will have to chill.

Whew! I’m on a roll today. Because being frank is what I do,
I’m Qui
Be a good friend, it’s about the GOOD TIMES we spend – Don’t let the drainer be you.