I got mine

In Communication, Griot, Networking, Self Improvement on October 29, 2012 at 9:29 am

Amy DuBois Barnett,(Ebony Magazine Editor-in-Chief) published a book five years ago, Get Yours! How to Have Everything You Dreamed of and More. Amy is amazing woman, mom and editor in chief who has been through a lot, and I’m thrilled that she was moved to bind a book that would spread the wisdom that she’s gained along her lifes journey. This month in Ebony Magazine Amy decided to run an editorial feature specifically for Black woman on 100 ways to live your dreams. Here are seven rules (Amy lives by) for getting yours that she wrote about:

Embrace fear as growth. The more you challenge yourself and reach outside of your comfort zone the more you are growing as a person and becoming who you are meant to be. Open your mind to new ideas and your eyes to new sights. Believe that you can do anything.

Be true to yourself. Never let anyone else tell you what to do, with whom to hang out, what to wear, how to think. You know yourself best; this is your life. Identify your passions, embrace who you are and get comfortable in your own skin.

Realize your value and demand the best. No one will treat you properly or give you the opportunities you seek unless he or she feels your confidence. Expect your dreams to become reality and they will!

“Be true to yourself.
Never let anyone else tell you what to do,
with whom to hang out, what to wear, how to think.


Put into the universe what you want to get back.  Make people feel your positive energy. Be generous and loving. Try to help others be all they can be. Contribute to your community. Obnoxious, petty, greedy people will never feel as fulfilled as people who strive to make the world a better place.

Have integrity. Do what you say you’re going to do. It’s as simple as that. Whether it’s your friend, your brother, your boss or your neighbor, make good on your commitments. Most important, keep your promises to yourself. Identify your dreams and list what steps you take today, this year and forever to make them a reality. Then do it!

Stay independent. This is your life; no one can live it for you. Be your won person — even as a spouse, parent, significant other, daughter, son or friend. When you create the life you want, love and protect it as your most valuable asset. Don’t let anyone — under the guise of “taking care of you” — convince you to give up something that make you feel good. Take care of yourself.

Do something meaningful everyday. Your life is happening right now, as you read this. Yes, I want you to dream big and work toward your goals. But please remember that nothing is worth more than today. And this day will never happen again. Make it count!

By following these rules, I have managed to carve out a wonderful life for myself, even through the inevitable ups and downs — and, like so many of us, I have had a lot: I’ve been through divorce, relocation, illness in the family and more. But I also have an incredible job I’m passionate about; I have awesome friends and an amazing son; and I prioritize new and exciting experiences so my life is filled with adventure. What else could I ask for? Check out our 100 ways list, then e-mail me or hit me on Twitter to let me know how you’re going to get yours! @AmydBarnett


While Amy’s going for hers, I had to get mine.
Affirming the seven rules, has me feeling just fine.

Stella isn’t the only one whose got her groove,
it’s important we keep productive agendas then stick and move.

Today is Monday and I’m up for renewing,
so a 60 minute boot camp – is what I’ll be doing.

I’m mindful that I’m a mom, a daughter and a loving partner too.
I can’t be consumed by the lives of others; to me – I must stay true.

You must do same. Think of self, every now and then,
I’m Qui
Happy Monday to thee – let’s follow the seven rules and WIN!

Look out for thyself. Anytime is a good time.
And always go for yours — because I’m sho’ going for mine!

  1. Got to! If you don’t get yours for yourself — nobody’s going to give it to you. Great post Qui!

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