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What about FLIRTING

In Communication, Griot, Networking, Self Improvement on August 29, 2013 at 9:45 am


Everyone does it differently – I personally love FLIRTING a lot.
I can go from talking about winter to making the listener hot.

I’m a speaker of encouragement – please know I yield compliments easy.
Guests feels good in my presence and retreat saying, “Qui is cool breezy.”

I flirt with everyone, because I see their silver linings showing,
I usually approach rendering my view and leave them wow’d and glowing.

Shy? That’s not me. I’m the talker in the room.
I can find the silver lining in a crowd of hopeless gloom.

I seek out the sunny and forfeit the gray.
Flirting is a part of my happy everyday.

Mechanics love flirts. I do it to them all the time,
and in return my car is repaired for a very little dime.



Yes, of course this post is inspired by MTV’s GIRL CODE. I love that show! Have you been watching it?

Ladies – you should. The female panel and situational responses could lend you a little girl-friendly advice. Men – you should watch it too. Sure there’s the occasional man on the panel juxtaposing and striking a balance but the number one reason you should watch the show is  because you can learn a lot about a womans mind – your womans mind. Episode 19 is great, but let us fast forward and hone in on the FLIRTING parts of the show.  They’re a hoot!

Ep. 19:  Morning After, FLIRTING and Decorating

All it takes is a little flirting…

Girl Code_Carly AquilinoCARLY:  If a guy tries to hook up with you in the morning, don’t even think about it. Morning sex is never a good idea. Last nights sex wasn’t a good idea either.

Girl Code_ Nicole ByerNICOLE:  You tap once at night, you can’t tap again in the morning because I’m disgusting. Because we were probably drinking and dancing or whatever the night before, so I’m sweaty and kind of grimy down there.

Girl Code_Alice WetterlundALICIA: No, it’s awesome. That, like should validate the entire thing – if you have morning sex. Again that’s what I came for and I’m getting more of it.

Girl Code_Alesha ReneeALEESHA RENEE’: I definitely think woman should not be staying. DO NOT STAY and linger on throughout the day [saying] ‘So – what are we doing today?’ We just did what we were doing today.

Girl Code_Andrew SchulzANDERW:  Get out of there before he has to ask you to leave. So if you wake up at 8 in the morning, just give him a kiss and then leave – don’t hang around.

Girl Code_Jamie LeeJAMIE LEE:  No guy is going to ever say, ‘Huh! I can’t believe she didn’t say bye.’

Girl Code_April RoseAPRIL ROSE: If you’re trying to get a guy out of your place, just call him a cab and tell him it’s showing up in 5 minutes & to go downstairs and wait for it.

GIRL CODE – Rule #1234
[If a guy stays over at your house]

Girl Code_Jessimae PelusoJESSIMAE:  Tell him you have to wake up and go to work, walk out with him, and the classic line to get him away is, when you come to a corner, say, “Which way are you going?” Always say ‘the opposite direction’ – take a walk around the block and go back to your house and sleep off all the shame.

It’s not a morning after, without the walk of shame…

Girl Code_Jamie LeeJAMIE LEE:  The walk of shame is proof that you got some last night. So you own that moment – Girl Code.


Girl Code_Shaylah Evans SHAYLA: Boyfriends friends are potentially a whole bunch of new friends for you but they’re also potentially, like the cause of all of your problems.

Girl Code_Chris DistefanoCHRIS: All of my friends cheat on their girlfriends; they’re all involved in illegal activity – I don’t want my girlfriend to think ‘Oh, does he do that too?’ [Whiney mock female voice] ‘Is that what you do when you’re with your friends?’

Girl Code_April RoseAPRIL ROSE: Your boyfriends friends are a reflection of who he is. He chooses who he wants to be surrounded by and if they’re all pieces of sh-# — you’re dating a piece of sh#@!

It can start with innocence and in lust, we’re

Girl Code_NessaNESSA: Flirting is just a way of life. For us girls it comes naturally. It’s just like a sexual attraction and the we talk to a man (or a girl). It’s just that it’s natural game.

Girl Code_Carly AquilinoCARLY: THE TECHNIQUES to being a good flirt: Lean in when you’re talking to him, laugh at everything he says, even though you know it’s not funny and maybe whisper something in his ear very playful like, “How big is your d%#k?”

Girl Code_NessaNESSA: I Never know I’m flirting until a guys says, ‘Hey, you know – I think you’re feeling me. You wanna go out?’ and I’m like WHAT? Why would you say that? ‘Well you know earlier you were talking about how good I look.’ Yeah, because I needed you to move some boxes.

Girl Code_ Nicole ByerNICOLE: REASONS TO FLIRT – I’ll flirt to get a drink, I’ll flirt to get a date, I’ll flirt to get a screw driver and sometimes I’ll just flirting to get a new wig.

Girl Code_Jessimae PelusoJESSIMAE: When a dude flirts with you, sometimes you don’t even realize it, because you’re too self conscious – and he really likes you and you’re like, “How can he really like me?” He likes you. If he’s always touching you – he likes you, unless you’re bleeding and he’s touching you because he’s trying to help you.

Girl Code_Jordan CarlosJORDAN: If a guy is talking to you – he is flirting. That is bar none, okay. It’s true.

Girl Code_Alice WetterlundALICE: Tips on how to find out if a guy means it when he’s flirting – You can look for,  like stammering.  If he’s making like awkward attempts to touch you, if he has a full on erection [in the the movie theater], I feel bad for that guy, but he probably means it.

Take away from this production only what you can use and discard the rest. Learn the flirting rules (to your benefit) and have  fun at relationship tests.

Let the flirt in you shine – stop by and flirt with me.
I’m Qui
Happy Thursday baby. You’re looking good today. Ooo Wee.
(…the natural flirt in me.) 😉

PS… I’m not a sexual flirt – I’m attracted to your good and your skill.
I don’t ever calculate my genuine say, it just comes up – the flirtatious will.


Remember How Goofy You Were

In Communication, Griot, Music, Networking, News, TV Shows on August 26, 2013 at 6:44 am

miley cyrus twerk teamWhen you were 20 – weren’t you a bit of a mess?
The party actions of Miley Cyrus may remind you best…

The only reason why you passed the global idiots test
is because you weren’t born on the global stage of fest.

Last night at the VMA show Miley Cyrus showed out!
But isn’t that what being young is pretty-much all about?

How dare we point the finger of shame at a child
who’s 20, enjoying life and acting a little wild?

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I personally believe
our youth should get a “role model reprieve.”

If Miley didn’t act out on stage last night –
When would be a good time to do so in her life?

Would you be more open to her twerking at the age of 42
with children, a spouse, softened abs and worse glutes?

Perhaps Miley’s behavior would be more acceptable
when she’s 25 and her curves are more delectable?

A womans body is its tightest when she is young
and I believe a 20’s frame is best built for fun.

Last nights VMA scene was fun, but lets keep it real,
perhaps our hyped-up Miley was on an ecstasy pill?

Doesn’t make it right – but she is grown.
We don’t pay her bills – so let’s leave her alone.

Those that dig her music will keep her record sells alive.
The rest of us should stay focused on own situational thrive.

Remember How Goofy You Were when you were of a younger look?
Perhaps you’d like to forget the past – but you posted it on Facebook.

Sex sells – Miley & the VMA’s are in the business of making money,
I’m Qui
And MC’s publicity stunt is working so well – it’s bankable funny.

Young folks being young – is really not that serious.
Let’s focus on bigger global issues like the genocide in Syria.


In Communication, Griot, Networking, Self Improvement on August 25, 2013 at 2:36 am

AJust Ride_Aug25 couple of weeks ago I ran into a  girlfriend whose only been happily married since forever and she tells me that her libido is starting to slack off. This from a woman who has demanded it almost daily since our college hay-days, and yes – she was married during our college hay-days. She admits that she has since gained a few pounds and may be slacking off on intimacy due to her new  size but then she also admitted to acting out fits of high sexuality from time to time. Unfortunately for her, her spouse was rarely at home during those highs, so she effectively handles those moments in a mono fashion.

Just knowing that she still has mono-fixing moments is already a good sign. That means her libido isn’t dead, though it may be idle, at rest, falling asleep, or something like that. I’m no sex doctor, though I must admit I am fond of the practice of making babies. So when she asked me for advice, surely I suggested the usual spice-it-up tricks: candles, R&B, lingerie, role play, etc., — all of which she says she’s already tried and still incorporates.

Defeat is not something that I’m into, so I took on the task of researching “where does a woman go from here?”  Let’s call my girlfriend Alicia.  There’s something else you don’t know about Alicia, a year ago she had a hysterectomy. A hysterectomy is a surgical procedure where doctors remove a womans uterus and sometimes even her ovaries (which are needed to direct hormone traffic) – for medical reasons like endometriosis and the likes.  Alicia was suffering really bad cramps and extended cycles before she ultimately decided to have the procedure done.  Alicia already has 3 kids so, she wasn’t planning to procreate again. Lucky for her, she was able to keep her ovaries therefore her hormones should continue to be normal. Kudos to medical science on that one! However, the doctor proudly admitted to her that during the surgical  procedure he hemmed the cuff of her vagina nicely and that her husband would enjoy it. She didn’t know at the time that her doctor was referencing to the snugness of her va-jay-jay. It’s been a year post her procedure and she told me that every interlude almost feel’s like the first time (to which she doesn’t mind), her husband, however enjoys the new space very much.

Still a desire for copulating is the matter at hand, so I focused my research on herbal supplements.  The following information that I found was so awesome ladies, that I couldn’t resist sharing it with you in hopes that you’ll Make It Sexier too:

Chinese angelica (Angelica sinensis). The Chinese call this herb dang-quai and claim that it does for women what ginseng does for men. You can add three to six teaspoons to a pint of boiling water and drink up to three cups of this a day. It is not suggested that you take this if you are pregnant.

Ginseng (Panax). Ginseng can be used by both men and women and has proven to be one of the top herbs as a sexual stimulant.

Quebracho (Aspidosperma quebracho-blanco). This herb contains yohimbine which is the active compound in the herb yohimbe. In women, the biochemicals in these herbs help the clitoris to become engorged causing sexual arousal.
They should not be used if you have high blood pressure. Do not continue to use this herb if you have side effects such as dizziness.

Yohimbe (Pausinystalia yohimbe). This herb has been used by men to improve their erections and the FDA has actually approved pharmaceuticals containing yohimbe. It does have some possible side effects such as elevating blood pressure. If this is a problem for you then you may want to take the plant compound yohimbine instead.
Atlanta sex therapist Roger Libby, Ph.D. suggests that yohimbe is also a good stimulant for women by increasing blood flow to the clitoris as it does to the penis in men.

Anise (Pimpinella anisum). Anise contains anethole which is a compound similar to estrogen. In older times people used it for increasing their milk secretion while breast feeding, promoting the menstrual cycle, facilitating childbirth and for a woman’s sex drive.
Plant estrogens or phytoestrogens such as these enhance a person’s lust for life and could enhance sexual lust as well.

Chocolate (Theobroma cacao). Now you can have your chocolate and eat it too. Chocolate boosts the body’s levels of serotonin and endorphins which help relieve pain and boost your mood. Some people even believe that chocolate will mimic the effects of marijuana in the brain.
Next time you want a romantic evening try chocolate instead of strawberries, or chocolate covered strawberries for a special treat.

Cola (Cola nitida). Cola contains the stimulants theobromine, kolanin and caffeine. Cola has been used in Jamaica as an aphrodisiac for many years.

Essential oils such as jasmine, rose, or clary can be used as massage oils when mixed with vegetable oil. It’s a well-known fact that scents and massage are both sexually stimulating and the two together would only enhance each other.

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I suggested to Alicia to let all other stresses subside
and to focus more on her hips, rotation and stride.

To always focus on beauty – we then hit the spa;
we emerged as la beauties, two cuties – la la.

She promised to hit the list, forego subliminal pride
and to grab ahold of what she wants, take it in and Just Ride.

I prefer a smooth ride, no stresses, no medical woes.
If herbs will do the trick then to the herb shop I will go.

Call me a flower child if you want to – I insist that I am a lady,
who loves to have fun and enjoys the practice of making babies.

Fall is approaching the Southwest’s weather and is catching me in the mood,
I’m Qui
Keeping it real with thee while serving up knowledge & sensual food.