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In Communication, Griot on October 31, 2013 at 2:57 pm
#Sweets4TheSweets!!! Drob by and Trick or Treat

#Sweets4TheSweets!!! Drob by and Trick or Treat

Happy Halloween – I’m ready to cop some sweets. 
I’m getting it for “the kids” of course – and not for me to eat.

I’ve got a nice size bag, it’s orange and strong @ seams.
I’m eating salads for the next two month to off-set calories.

Happy Halloween WordPress Readers. Don’t stay online too much.
Tonight is the night to dance in black light and watch your neighbors cut up.

Sure I’m dressing in costume – though not the store bought kind,
and I’m curious if it will be okay to trick or treat for wine?

Still a treat and less calories in moderation.

Still a treat and less calories — in moderation.

Happy Halloween – It’s the day we’ve been waiting for.
When we can let our hair hang lose and come up on a candy score!

Roar!!! I’m the frisky black cat who’s glad to be out tonight,
I’m Qui
Accepting all
candy, but looking for that glass of wine. lol! 😉

The almanac isn't forecasting a full moon, but  WHAT ABOUT YOUR NEIGHBOR?

The almanac isn’t forecasting a full moon, but WHAT ABOUT YOUR NEIGHBOR?


In Communication, Griot, Networking, Self Improvement on October 27, 2013 at 4:57 pm
Divorced? Now what? Avoid these three pitfalls after moving on

Divorced? Now what? Avoid these three pitfalls after moving on

Daddy and mommy tried, but couldn’t work it out,” said mom, then she released a dozen of helium balloons into the sky (one for every year they were married), afterwards   she took us out for pizza, coke and a movie. We had a great time, though it felt a little strange, because Dad wasn’t there. However, it was his macho exterior that made us feel confident that he was in control and knew exactly what to do. Today I am an adult and I realize dad had not a clue, but did the best that he could, starting with catching up on his “dating life.”

Last week I found a copy of WEB MD at my chiropractors office that had the most interesting Mens Health article inside about divorced men and thought I’d share it with you. It’s tailored for men, but women, you can  ‘flip it’ to make it work for you if you too, if you are a recent divorcee.

Healthy LIvingAdapting to life after divorce is hard for guys under the best of circumstances. But you can make it easier on yourself, your ex, and your children if you avoid some of the most common mistakes.

Dating Too SoonNewly DIVORCED Dad TIPS
Too many men start dating before the dust has settled on their divorce, says psychologist Sam J. Buser, PhD, co-author of The Guys-Only Guide to Getting Over Divorce and On With Life, Sex, and Relationships. They rush into new relationships — and often new marriages — within the first year. “That’s no doubt the biggest mistake,” says Dr. Buser.

Buser says men jump into dating because they’re lonely, vulnerable, and sad and they’re looking for someone to help them feel better. “The relationships they start do not often work out in the long run,” he says. “I advise my patients to wait at least two years. I’ve never had a man take me up on that advice, but I do try to slow them down.

Isolating Yourself

After divorce, it’s easy for a guy to let himself become isolated, especially if his ex gets custody of the kids. That’s another big mistake. It can worsen feelings of depression, guilt, and loneliness, a potentially dangerous mix. Divorced men are twice as likely to commit suicide as married men.

Buser’s advice: Connect with other guys. Call up old friends. Join a softball team, a club, or a professional network to avoid isolation.” He also says the aftermath of a divorce is a great time to go back to school: Returning to the classroom keeps you active, stimulates your mind, potentially advances your career, and gets you out of the house.

Making Introductions Too Soon

You’ve met someone new. You’re excited and happy. Good for you. Just don’t make the mistake of expecting your kids to be upbeat about the news.

“The last thing the kids want to see is parents getting involved with someone else,” says Gordon E. Finley, PhD, a psychologist who specializes in issues facing divorced men and emeritus professor of psychology at Florida International University in Miami. “they are going to be unhappy. Date when you feel ready, but leave the kids out of it.”

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In my broken home situation, Mom actually remarried first.
While Dad went on to conquer his Casanova thirsts.

Dad ran through his date book until he was in his mid 50’s
He finally settled on one woman and his love life is nifty.

I’m not sure of the percentages of men that rebound too quick,
but Dad wasn’t one of them. His dating game was quite thick.

I, myself am married. I married my high school sweetheart,
and the last 23 years have been a real piece of pleasant art.

I never thought I was the marrying type, but then love ran its full course,
I’m Qui
An encouraging she – divvying tips for the recently divorced.

Put the kids first – divorce doesn’t have to be a definite relationship lame.
Just remember life is to be lived, to be loved and you can master this NEW GAME.


In Communication, Griot, Music, Networking, Self Improvement on October 25, 2013 at 12:28 pm

FUN at the Homecoming DanceThis weekend Perry High and Hamilton High are celebrating their homecomings. I remember my own high school homecoming. The football game was pretty cool (for a social networking ground) and the homecoming dance was off the chain. I did the smurf, the sheik, and the South Dallas drop. Do you remember any of those dances? Which ones were you doing? Good times, for sure.

Today twerking seems to be all the rage, but it’s certainly not new in my neighborhood. I suppose the scrutiny spotlight came on once Miley Cyrus tried to do it at the VMA’s. It’s certainly not for everyone. But she’s young and she’s hype. Personally, I would rather her do it today – at 20 years old, than to wait until she’s 40. If you think her muscleless hiney was flabby at the VMA’s imagine its hideousness 20 years from today. No sir. You don’t want that. 🙂

All twerking aside, I turned to Tim Milgram to cop some new moves. Tim is a choreographer and he’s light on his feet. If you’re still doing the cabbage patch, or the running man, STOP NOW and cop some of these moves:

If you really want to jam
Peep this white girl that gets down.

I don’t know her name, but she headed up Missy’s HOT BOYZ vid,
They had to put her in front – her precise moves should not be hid.

Each step is on point. Every dancer kept it real.
Choreography credits go to Martijin Sedgfield.

Check the videos and cop the moves that you can bust,
I’m Qui
on this homecoming weekend at the crib, kicking up dust.

Dancing is an awesome sport and great exercise too.
When you drop your kids off at the dance – take a minute & roll thru.
I’d love to dance (ie,…kick dust) with you.