My friend is gone.

In Communication, Griot, Networking, News on October 4, 2014 at 7:54 pm

Tina Jo Reese & Tavian Joseph Sabur 2011

Last night about 8pm, I received a call from a family member telling me that they had bad news. They asked if I were sitting, I said, “Yes.” It was my mother calling, (I put her on speaker), she wanted to let me know that “Tina Reese has died.”

I didn’t know what to say. I’m thinking, What? How? and Why? and then blank.  I laid the phone on the coffee table. She said, “Qui. Are you there?”

ME: Yes. Ma’am. I am. Pardon me, I don’t know where I went in thought. What happened? How mom?
MOM: She was on her way to her daughters [volleyball] game when she was involved in a car accident on the highway. Her daughter was notified as soon as word could travel. She arrived at the hospital to see her mother, but she had expired just minutes before.”

I sunk into the couch. My husband took the phone. I went out onto the patio to look into the sky and try to take this all in. My heart… crushed. My mind… blank. My voice… disabled.

I wrote a story about TJ Sabur in September of 2011 in a piece called, “My Baby is Gone.” 10-year old TJ was killed by a drunk driver while his mother, Tina Reese drove him to football practice during Labor Day weekend on Friday afternoon. When I made my way to the hospital to her bedside, she said, “Hello QuiQui. My baby is gone.”  There hasn’t been one day that has gone by since that she has not expressed her love for TJ, nor did she miss an opportunity to mention that they would meet again.

Folks. This is my current situation tonight. Tina and TJ have reunited.

It’s the best way I can put things together in my mind — the best way that I can deal. Tina was a beautiful person and has always been a beautiful spirit. A positive force. May her memory and legacy remain in kind.

Here are the details to TINA REESE’s HOME GOING [Funeral]:

Tina Reese's Funeral Date & Time

click the notice to enlarge it 


Say a prayer for TJ’s sister and Tina Reese’s little girl, Camille Cherry. She needs you today – she may need you tomorrow. I’m going to be here for her — for the long run.


My friend is gone, and is surely with her baby.
She was one graceful, all-inclusive loving lady.

Tina never missed a beat in being MOM OF THE YEAR.
When her kids needed support- she was there to cheer!

She was the designated taxi driver. Transporter of Goodness & Love.
God saw her driven purpose and ‘made way’ for her “above.”

TJ was there to meet her. You better believe that I am telling the truth.
Nothing happens by mistake – when He moves, I stand in mute.

I’m grateful to have known Tina and to be connected to her seed still,
I’m Qui
Aunti Qui to Cami. Because FAMILY CONNECT surpasses DNA. For real.

Keep Tina’s family in your prayers… They will need them to heal.

R.I.P. Tina Reese

I’ll miss you dear friend… dear sister. 


  1. […] — R.I.P. Tina Reese. She has reunited with her […]

  2. MY Dear sweet friend, Tina I cannot believe you are gone. I love you as so many people did, you are a beautiful., Mother friend coworker you were and are all of that. I know T.J. greeted you and God planned for you to come and take care of your baby boy. I feel in my heart you are at true peace now God knew you suffered long enough without your baby Now my sweet friend rest in peace in God arms you lay, there is no better place to be. I love you sweetheart you will be forever in my heart.
    Shelia Ramos

  3. What a GREAT tribute to Tina !! She will be missed!! Love and hugs Tina!! ❤

  4. Tina was a very close friend of mine. We came together by a common tradgedy, our boys were killed by drunk drivers just 4 months apart of each other. I had just visited with her in June, had I known it would be the last time I would have stayed longer. Tina had sent me a text just last week, reminding me that she loved me and and how blessed she felt to be my friend. I will treasure that text forever.. I’m so glad I told her I loved her too. Although u am overjoyed that she is reunited with TJ ( something we used to always talk about, how much we longed to see the boys again) I feel so much heartbreak for Camille. She has been though so much, I’m so glad that she has so many people surrounding her with the love and support she will undoubtedly need for a very long time to come.

  5. Beautiful words for a Beautiful Mama ❤

  6. This is so sad. You are in my thoughts.

  7. Its hard to believe,,cant believe this. Tina was our supervisor. Always encouraging, always trying to help us get things done.. Always so pretty, excercising, trying to go on, We knew she always looked sad after losing her son. But she would have Camille to look forward to,looking forward to her games, speaking of her school. She was so proud of her daughter/We miss you already Tina. Your thoughts and encouragements will live on in our hearts. We will always remember you.God bless your family and your daughter,,,,,love,carol

  8. God please embrace this family and their friends while they are traveling through this diffcult journey. God Bless

  9. Prayers from the depths of my heart to your family. May the Lord pour over all of you much peace and comfort. Prayers the wings of Angels hold you each so tight you feel the softness of there wings… God Be With You.
    Susiey D. B. Brockwell

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