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In News, Science, Self Improvement on January 30, 2023 at 4:04 am

The biological and physiological underpinnings of emotions were discussed by Aristotle around 350 BC, in De Amina (On The Soul), per Discrete Emotion Theory which states: there are core emotions that are biologically determined emotional responses whose expression and recognition is fundamentally the same for all individuals regardless of ethnic or cultural differences.

Ever heard of Emo Cali?

Hint: It did not originate on the West Coast. 🙂

EMO Cali is short for EMOTIONAL CALIBRATION and is exactly what I want to talk about this morning. Why? Because feelings are personal and revealing. What are your thoughts/philosophy on sitting in un-comfortability to figure out why you feel and react the way that you do?

What is GUILT? A feeling that refers to the belief that you have done something wrong or that you will do something wrong. We feel this way when we are out of alignment with our true values. Emotions arise as “a necessary check“, (like the check engine light in your car), so that you check-in with your true values on the topic via introspection and retrospection.

Once you recognize that the uncomfortable feeling that you are experiencing is Guilt what do you do then? Understand that emotions arise to protect us from being vulnerably hurt, then work on emotion designation; exercise mindfulness into what you mean.

Emotions are easy to calibrate when you do so within your true value system. Then and only then will it stick and render you more confident in your responses. Remember, emotional responses arise to protect us when we don’t understand or know what to say in any given moment.

God never intended for us to feel overly vulnerable, so He gave us emotions as a sort of first line of defense. Use them properly and folks will think you are a communication genius.

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In 350 BC Aristotle was on a roll
per Discrete Emotion Theory aka On The Soul.

What Aristotle found and comprehended in his life’s scene
are 12 Fundamental Emotional Responses that reside in every human being.

That’s right. Emotionally, we are all human, thus, we are alike
and like complexions, our emotions gradient between dark and light.

Learn a little. Learn a lot.
Mean who you are and not ever who you’re not.

Emotional Calibration is a mindful lesson
that can help you fell less guilt or needs for confessions.

Question your innate responses as often as you feel necessary.
Refer to the 12 Core Emotions because feeling natural shouldn’t be scary.

Use the zest that is associated with JOY to lessen the pain of Sadness.
Use Laughter, a Joy extension, to calibrate anger or madness.

When GUILT shows up at the party, ask yourself an honest WHY.
Then focus on why your response was so protective, (given that you didn’t even try).

If you find that you could have handled things differently, the good news is: you still can.
Reach out to that person who was misunderstood and clear things up on how you stand.

Calibrate the mood of the relationship sincerely and in the process teach a friend
that even though we banter to and fro, via self improvement we can all win.

No one is perfect, but if we are mindful it may look similar to
I’m Qui
an EMO Cali, She whose always in the mood to emote with you.

Say THAT!

In Communication, Griot, Music, Networking, Self Improvement on January 27, 2023 at 4:04 am

listen-quote-larry-kingI have met some pretty fantastic people online and offline, that have fantastic conversation. No matter what topic we are on, they always have the perfect quips, responses, and quotes on hand. These are the most entertaining persons especially when marinated in wisdom.  Proverbial quotes – I like them. They can be witty, instructional and informational all at once. Wisdom does indeed come with age though I have found divine wisdom coming out of the mouths of babes, on a few occasions as well. That’s the best kind of communicative exchange – when you walk away wiser and proactively in thought.

I was raised in the church and I remember when Paster Floyd G. Taylor would preach and the saints were feeling it – they would belt out encouraging remarks like, “SAY THAT!, Tell the truth! and Amen!” Those are my exact sentiments when I fall into the captive conversation of a well versed conversationalist. Now while I can hold my own in verse, I am always in it to learn so the following quotes are a a mixed bag of wisdom, order and musical fad. All of the quotes are enlightening and much can be drawn from them in comprehension. Let’s take a dip into WHO SAID WHAT:

“I might not be someone’s first choice But I am a great choice. I may not be rich but I am valuable. I don’t pretend to be someone I’m not because I’m good at being me. I might not be proud of some of the things I’ve done in the past, but I am proud of who I am today. I may not be perfect but I don’t need to be. Take me as I am, or watch me as I walk away. Forget yesterday-it has already forgotten you. Don’t sweat tomorrow- You haven’t even met. Instead, open your eyes and your heart to a truly precious gift” – Today
[I found this quote on a BlackPlanet profile page].

“Punks jump up to get beat down!”  – Brand Nubian 

“Woman” was the test, but not every woman seemed to qualify. Black women, of course, were virtually invisible within the protracted campaign for woman suffrage. As for white working-class women, the suffrage leaders were probably impressed at first by the organizing efforts and militancy of their working-class sisters. But as it turned out, the working women themselves did not enthusiastically embrace the cause of woman suffrage.”
Angela Y. Davis, Women, Race, & Class

“Bill Cosby is a famous black guy who has a bully pulpit the size of the world; it’s global. He puts his colossal foot on the vulnerable necks of poor people, and as a result of that, we don’t have a balanced conversation.”
Michael Eric Dyson

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“Life is a game that must be played” – Fab5Freddy
“Live with a purpose or generally get slayed.” – Qui

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The science of Astronomy & Astrology said:

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The weekend will be wall-to-wall with opportunity. Be sure to participate in the come-up and look for me.

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Sounds enriching and promising enough – I’m certainly up for it.
And if good conversation is on the table for the abled — I’ll be trying to score it!

To be bore-ish is no objective of mine, 
I prefer to intertwine in the intellect of the brightest minds.

Todays quoted finds were easy to locate.
Each one in some capacity, ol’ Qui can relate.

From Dallas, to New York and the Southwest to  the boot,
I’ve found plenty of good conversation – a good mind is a hoot!

Speak wisdom and knowledge to me and I will belt out: “SAY THAT!
I’m Qui
To the good conversationist: “Oui! Come with it. I do give back!

Though I must confess, I do delight in “the listen.”
From your head to mine – information sparkles and glistens.

Thinking of YOU

In Communication, Music, Self Improvement on January 25, 2023 at 3:15 am

When it comes to mindful thoughts, I’m a mover and shaker.
So, naturally thinking of you brings to mind ANITA BAKER:

When emotions are high, I am quick to love and less to anger,
because I know love ebbs & flows and you remain my ANGEL.

No matter what the day presents to us, we’ll remain present in love.
Let it be me and you to eternity and forgo tears of doves:

When I think of you, emotions run true and I can in no way dim or shorten the hem.
These thoughts lead me to rotate the romantic sways of LATOIYA WILLIAMS:

Good morning, Goodness, you are a love jones to me.
The week is mid and I feel like a kid; to hone this vibe must be key.

Thinking of YOU always leads back to…