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The Haunting of LOU GOSSETT Jr.

In Communication, Griot, Networking, Self Improvement, TV Shows on June 10, 2015 at 4:11 am

The Haunting Of Louis Gossett Jr.

My goodness did you see who Kim Russo met up with just the other day?
It was Louis Gosset Jr. and child, he had a lot to say.

I mean, Hey-eyy! He’s still looking good
though his concerns were more with the supernatural hood.

Something happen to Lou while shooting a film, based in truths frame,
about a guy being killed, and an innocent man taking the blame.
The film was shot near the sugar canes.

The year was 1987 and the film was called GATHERING OF OLD MEN.
Lou was residing in a hotel near the sugar can fields with other crew and friends.

However one night whilst he was sleeping and sound
3-5 male spirits (one in chains) at his footboard, did gather ’round.

They seemed to be yelling at him and he felt them pulling at his arms and feet,
Then his great grandma’s spirit appeared with authority and ushered them off of the scene.

Lou always wondered ‘what did it mean‘ and ‘why did it happen to him?
This was his sole reason for hooking up the psychic detective, Kim.

Kim showed up at the Louisiana sugar canes
and measured the energy: anxious and one in chains.

It seemed many years ago and on that land
there was a riot of some sort betwixt a band of black men.

Lou Gosset Jr. was there in 1987 to film show
and the commonalities betwixt art and life blended like whoa.

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Kim’s team revealed that history does recall
that in an earlier day, a life did fall
and an innocent man did indeed take the blame
and the outcome of the situation was mortality lame.

Meanwhile, in the cinematic piece that Lou was filming
he played the part of an innocent man in a very comparable feeling.

Based off of truth — some details were changed
still parallels were so strong that they somehow blurred lanes.

Kim gave Lou’s account ‘gut thought,’ and confirmed
this situation is a moment from which he was to learn.

she explained,
The men in spirit that showed up at Lou’s footboard
were there to deter him from a mistake that he couldn’t afford.

History was stained with blood and kept fresh in time
with what happened to the man that did that – last time.

The innocent man who confessed back in the day,
lost his life for peace’s sake.

The free men that showed up including one in chains
were there to convince Lou not to do the same.

Believe it or not,” says Kim, but ‘spirit was confused…
they didn’t recognize this was just a role and that your craft was in use.’

Kudos to you, Lou Gossett Jr., for getting lost in the role,
this explained why great grandma showed up and told the ‘men of the past’ to go.

This was a pretty rad episode. I enjoyed the revelations of the journey therein,
I’m Qui
a griot she – giving The Haunting Of another literal spin.

It’s too interesting not to choose it –
Lou’s account hooked me and made me do it.

Watch the FULL EPISODE Here.

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Glued to the tube – Who got the lube

In Communication, education, Griot, News, Self Improvement on November 20, 2019 at 2:33 pm
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I tried to look away…

Another day is closing on the impeachment hearings.
No funny hashtags emerged with metaphorical endearing’s.

There was a lot going on. I was watching. Were you?
According to the rating polls — you were glued-in too.

I know you saw it. I tried not to.
I left the house, merged with the crowds
and networked the morning through.
Everywhere that I went, regardless of the dollars I spent –
it was all about the “U:”

Unity & Under-dogging.
The two merged and displayed “cover story” flogging.

A lot of cover story’s may not “cover much” anymore.
If this moment were a bed — “the duvet” is on the floor.

Code red – code red.
The cover is off of the bed.

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But maybe it’s still on the table; the truth.
This is a moment, where I could use a call from Aunt Ruth.

You already know what she would say in a time like this.
She’d round up the posse for comments and she would not miss.

Always tell the truth and no one can touch ya.
Aunt Ruth would high-five that and then hug ya.

She was about the truth, so there’s no need to say …
The truth showed up big time in hearings today.

And so, we’re all “Glued to the tube – Who got the lube?
Somebody’s getting it in; dildo is truth.

There were three amigo’s and a couple of other folk…
Necks and shoulders are heavy; hearings yield yolk.

Oh no and whoa. Who knew the hearings would be this real and so swift?
I’m Qui
I rewinded a time or three, it’s hard to believe this isn’t a series script.

Now turn the television off. Let’s cut a corner; let’s dip.

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LIVE – New Content Creation

In Communication, Griot, Networking, News, TV Shows, Video on November 11, 2019 at 7:04 am

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Those who blur their work and their play are indeed considered living masters.
Have you been watching CBS’s new series spelled LIVE – but pronounced backwards?

Did you ever see the 1985 film FRIGHT NIGHT? Do you remember the little side-kick weasel
who ran along-side the good-looking vampire? His character name was Ed “Evil.”

CBS’s new hit series starring Mike Colter, former actor of LUKE CAGE fun –
Is now administering to humanities fester; praying against “Society Becoming Numb.”

I recently found the series and its already 6 episode’s in.
I’ve quickly caught up to current broadcast; for I’m a DVR kin.

The matter therein broaches the topic of sin.
The content therein is an EXORCIST‘s friend.

It’s truly good stuff; it’s not a comedy but a discerning drama.
It won’t scare you to hell, but it may invoke you to call your Moma,

if you were raised like myself; I was raised in the church.
Differentiating spiritual from physical – the distinction never hurt.

It’s GOOD LIFE STUFF that you may need to know.
Give it a looks’y; comprehend it and grow.

Another breakout series on-the-rise is a distant relative to CBS’ show:
“HIS DARK MATERIALS” is the tale-title of a new fiction on HBO.

It stars a couple of young protagonists
who surely have NARNIA on their speed dial list. ‘

Have you seen it? It’s a tall glass of water to quench thirst
of anyone like me (and perhaps thee) who likes fictional firsts.

Theres an alethiometer on this show.
Introduce me to a new word — and there I go!

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It’s a device used to LEARN THE TRUTH.
Fictional word says it’s Lyra’s… I say it’s my Aunt Ruth’s.

Do you remember my Aunt Ruth? She’s the fine one; quick-to-relate and hug ya.
She’s also the one who lived life in the bold; she’d no qualms with saying “fuck ya,”

if the truth was not in your voiced rendition.
Mike Acosta lacks the tool, but he has his “visions.”

Both EVIL and HIS DARK MATERIALS are new and budding shows.
Both have great content, tho, by their names you wouldn’t know.

I really can’t say why the title packaging is so obviously dark.
I suppose its the perfect cover to parallel the in-obvious stark.

I’m clearly into character composition; I’m also about non-obvious titles,
I’m Qui
Up early at this start of this week, because I dig avid watchers and show exciters.

WHO am I?
I’m WHO, the writer.

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No Debating HIGH RATINGS

In Communication, Griot, Music, News, Self Improvement, Video on October 23, 2019 at 6:26 am

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Today is a big day, yesterday was a big one too.
It’s seems a whole lot of dark stuff is in popping up in the news.

It seems that all it took to deliver us here was an honest-man speaking truth.
It’s all that I’ve ever longed for, reminding me that I miss my Aunt Ruth.

Yes, I do talk about her a lot. Let her name comfort and hug ya.’
Aunt Ruth was about the real and if you couldn’t deal, she’d say “fuck ya!”

I miss her dearly and I hope that you know
that “middle-finger comment” isn’t from me, but  Aunt Ruth’s quote. 😛

So why the HIGH RATINGS last night? What, pray tell is Congress’ view?
Well, it looks like impeachment is around the corner as well as several #PrisonBlues.

How hard can it be to tell, hear, and digest the truth?
I hit up E-40 for an honest POV; a culture-reflective view:

Things are only low for those who have chosen to lie,
to not support the Constitution nor the quality of our lives.

The Kurds are losing theirs; their level of safety is bane,
and then there’s the issue of: quid pro quo and Ukraine.

So why the HIGH RATINGS? We’re in no position to gloat or flaunt.
I believe the ratings are high because this is a moment the people want.

There’s NO DEBATING that the world has been in a funk.
God still has our back and the new script isn’t bunk.

You don’t have to stay-tuned to the news, God will make the truth a prompt in your throat.
May honesty be your shotgun buddy and ride with you on every to and fro.
Having said as much, things are looking up, yo.

Good morning baby, we are mid-week already.
I woke up this morning feeling fly like Blondie and Fab5Freddy.

Everybody’s still fly, right?
I’m Qui
Digging the high ratings for more truth and less debating; I’m about that HONESTY life.

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The TRUTH is my JAM.

 

In The Loop

In Communication, Griot, Networking, Sports on January 7, 2019 at 6:07 am

in-the-loop.pngA new year, the same me, the same you, and a new view.
In the spirit of yesterday’s News Peruse,
we’ll tie headlines together In The Loop.

The COWBOYS played the SEAHAWKS over the weekend and defended their playoff presence.
The EAGLES followed that cab and manifested their own “W” blessin.’

The Cowboys are slated to play the RAMS next;
each in pursuit of a Super Bowl respect.

Are you watching? Are you up on the NFL Loop?
How about the un-looping of lies; i.e, telling the truth?

I wish the White House administration could call my Aunt Ruth.
Like Jacob, she wrestled when honesty was aloof.

She wasn’t about that bull.
If you lied to her – a backhand kept you full.

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Mm-mm-ughhhh. It would hurt so bad,
but it’s what was needed to curb a lying lass.

Wake up, look alive and live in the truth.
You can’t trump life’s backhand; keep honesty In The Loop.
Do it for you.

Keep excellence In The Loop; the fabric of your character is always on display.
Regardless of the government’s shutdown, employees should go out and play.

Don’t let your gig ruin your day and expend your vote at every opportunity this year.
2019 is a more awake and progressive scene and wisdom is your fishing spear.

Use it to plant seeds and use it to harvest fruit.
Whatever you do, please remain true and keep me In The Loop.

I’m crazy about you and this fresh Monday start,
I’m Qui
Tying a loop that connects to your News Peruse heart.

Let’s stay connected.
When life happens we’re all affected.

Stay tuned to this groove for the Griot scoop.
It’s objective is to duly keep us In The Loop.

PS — Here’s a little something I thought you might like to know:
EDDIE GLAUDE JR. won the debatable segment on Morning Joe. 😛

And so

In Comedy, Communication, Griot, Networking, News, Self Improvement on October 21, 2019 at 4:45 am

Mick gave us his word, before his word was dead.
That’s when I stood up to clarify the moment and said:

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But he did. He took back what he said 5-hours prior
when the press corp was in the room and he had the floor.

Weird moments in time have been popping back up
since the media started rewinding “honesty cuts.”

You know, “honesty cuts?” That’s when someone has a moment of clarity
and blurts out the whole-hearted truth then pretends it was all parody.

You gotta be kidding me! And so I just thought I’d mention
what is constant reality in this era’s indention.

It’s an integrity issue and it keeps on happening —
“honesty cuts” show up before faux-talking-point dampening.

Why?
What does it cost you to live a big lie?

I wouldn’t know.
The “lie-laden route” is one I don’t go.

And so today my integrity is in check but not my Vertigo.
I woke up yesterday morning thinking I was on a boat.
Do you know Vertigo?

It’s a relative to TMJ so here I go.
I got this though.

It will not keep me from chatting it up with you.
It will not delay me from honesty and spilling the truth.

As sure as my beloved Aunt’s name is Ruth,
honesty and integrity should rank out-the-roof.

Put no ceiling on that, kinfolk.
And pray for those who lack its show.

Leadership qualities are the bombs and so
I’m eating up the course that’s on my degreed to-and-fro.
It’s a must, yo.’

Good morning kinfolk. What-it-look-like outside?
Are you up for the challenge? Are you down to ride?

If so, I’ll step off of this boat that dubs as Vertigo,
I’m Qui
accepting nothing in my way that keeps me from play, and so

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Don’t be ON THE FENCE about it.

 

Black History is Our Legacy

In Communication, Griot, News, Self Improvement on February 13, 2019 at 9:22 am

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February is one of my favorite months
because it represents love so very much.

While it’s a giving month it’s not too long.
What it lacks on long it makes up for in strong.

Like black coffee, this month and I are strong.
I like to make my points quick and not take too long.

Expresso?
I suppose so.

I like life strong.
In such a short month my mentions go long:

Don’t sleep on MASTER P and his NO LIMIT legacy.
Since 1989 he’s been on shine for the world to see.
His dimensions have depth,
Peep his journey; peep his steps:

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CLICK HERE

Percy is always a favorite subject of mine.
I like my men like my coffee; fresh in grind.

I am mindful that there would be no Master P if first he were not birthed a baby,
so I have to yield Black History Props to the all-encompassing Black lady.

Good morning, good morning:

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Good morning to you.
Qui is indeed Black History, too.

Big props to your mom, your auntie, that Black woman at your job.
It’s okay if you LOVE ON US all-at-once; we can handle the mob.

I am a BLACK WOMAN and I love every stitch of my fabric.
I love Adam’s seed who confesses that he’s a femme addict.

Come with it – WE give it.
LOVE.

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Education is a great foundation on which to stand,
please tell me that you still kick it with Dr. Umar, man?

An educated community has always been his goal and plan:

As far as my personal diet goes – I’m trying again. 😛

There’s an interest to pay homage to Black folks who are willing to evolve.
A fixed mind suits little, let an open mind be our collective find and resolve.

The task is not small and I see honing in progress.
To what the world is trying to hurl… I retreat and digress.

To remove thyself from the rigmarole – is always best.
Remain positively focused and you’ll pass this test.

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Today.

Black History is good to me; truth it’s always yielding me,
I’m Qui
about Black History and Our Legacy.
THANKS for vibing with me.

Humping Life

In Communication, Griot, Networking, News, Politics, Self Improvement on June 28, 2017 at 4:30 am

happy-birthday-dad.jpgYesterday was my Dads birthday; the fact was embedded in my sublime.
No one called to remind me, still – all day he was on my mind.

Life is kind. I smiled and laughed aloud once I realized
It was my Dads birthday. ‘Twas a pleasant surprise.

Today upon rising I am still happy.
I slept in a silk bonnet to stave off ‘nappy.’🤣

The first thing I did was read scripture, pray and meditate,
Then I ran downstairs yo! – to fetch a cup of jo and duly start the day!

I’m happy to be alive to thrive in this vibe. Please tell me how you feel?
My dad checked out on May 3rd then my Aunt – on Monday morn. Unreal.

I was still on the heal from my Dad leaving us and now my Aunty has taken the lead.
If a broken heart was literal I’d be suffering an excessive organ bleed.

Sometimes it feels like … “Ooo wee.”
So I just keep it moving –prayerfully.

While I’m emotionally in transit dare I repeat and say,
I am still interested in you. How do you feel today?

Baby are you okay? I pray this day does treat you swell.
After all your health care was not repealed away and is doing quite well.

Whew! What a chaotic scare and the Republicans are in no way through.
In order to divvy tax cuts for the rich they’re dipping into medicades pool.

save-the-aca-protest.jpgDon’t stop showing up to those town hall meetings or those protests in the street
If healthcare for every American citizen is what you want to see.

Every time you let up from showing that you’re fed up they take your inch and stretch it a mile.
Your decency overriden and your good sense smitten while politicians play vile.

I know, dear child. I’ve already humped satellite news and early, yo!
I’ve been up since the night-to-day crux . I ushered in MORNING JOE.

And so here we go! The sun is up and we are effectively on the hump.
Today holds excitement; in my throat there’s a lump

In my solar plex; my tummy, I truly feel butterflies.
Today the limit is set pretty high – way beyond the skies.

rise-people-standup.gifSo rise kinfolk, rise! — if in you there is life
And call up that estranged fam  member and write off any strife.

Then hump on the back of this vibe that is about today,
And ride that girl like she’s yo’ own. Today is all your day!

Take life in with every breath that you draw
Today is another opportunity to move forward past Hem & Haw.

Remember them?

Gird yourself with wisdom and be kind to all that you meet,
I’m Qui
Happy Hump Day to ya, kinfolk. Life with you feels oh so sweet.

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We’re gonna’ miss you Ru-Ru…

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Ruth Virginia “Aunt Jean” Garnett-Alford-Clemmons Jan. 4, 1952 – June 26, 2017

Click Here for funeral information

I’m PROUD like…

In Communication, Griot, News, TV Shows on February 2, 2017 at 6:39 pm

I’m PROUD like I’m a brand new auntie or something…
Bey said she is prego and since then, I’ve heard nothing —

from the side chicks with short wicks who were looking for a quick fuse
Jay-Z is nourishing a new 2-piece and likely won’t have time for the #GoldDiggerBoo.
Ooo.

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To me, that’s good news! I did not want the power CARTERS to break up.
I mean I loved me some LEMONADE but all I needed was one cup.

I was praying the tangy-ness would wake Mr. Jay-Z up.
A billionaire with a lot of flair; it’s not odd to be temped to cut-up.

beys-bambinos-2017You know American history. I am not here to re-sell it.
I’m that GRIOT SHE: Qui.  I’m just here to tell it.

I’m PROUD for the Carters, like I’m Auntie Qui or something.
This is the kind of PERUSE I like in the NEWS
because lately, there’s been nothing.

#MyNiece in Keller, TX is in love and is getting married in a week.
She’s my only niece on this family wing and she asked me to reception Emcee.
Ooo wee.

I’ve got my work cut out for me, though I’ve been around.
Give me the mic, and I’ll give you what you like —
MizQui is known to hold no bars and straight clown.
Yes honey! (Snap-Snap!) I get’s down. 😀

I’m PROUD because it’s an honor to entertain via personality say
among family, friends and non blood-kins on such a blessed betrothing day.

The count down is on and I have my part to play.
I’m PROUD to be kicking it with you. What are you up to today?

Watching any good television? You have!? You might?
Well don’t forget HBO will be broadcasting BILL MAHER tonight.

john-luther-idris-elba.jpgPlanning to stay in and cop an R&R fix?
I recommend a friend, snacks, liq and Netflix.

I recently watched a show with intellectual twists that delightfully cut through ya,
It stars Idris Elba playing the role of [Gov.] Police Captain John LUTHER.

LUTHER” is the name of the show and it was ruthless to its scripts core.
It had more deaths in its establishing episodes than I remember in FOX’s 24.

Woo! Remember that?
When we first met Jack.
Folks were dropping so fast,
I wondered how the show could last.

Good times.

Today is a fine day to feel PROUD about yourself.
It’s Friday – a likely payday, may you #ComeUP on your wealth.

This day is a full one for me as I’m hammering this piece out #OnTheRun,
I’m Qui
I’m PROUD about WE, enjoy yourself today and cop some fun.

Life is short and TIME is refundable to none.

Sex at 40 – Good Lordy!

In Communication, Griot, Networking, Self Improvement on October 23, 2015 at 3:06 am

Now I lay me down to sleep
I pray the Lord, my soul to keep

and if my spouse should “rise” before I awake
I pray my response be on the “willing take.”

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 Not 40.
Not your problem?

Well Lordy, Lordy,
Qui is 40 

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I love the men that love us.

… and she likes it.
So I’ve been nothing but on-top of this “Sex at 40” research for at least a year, not because I just turned 40, but because I wanted to be prepared. When I was younger I always heard that a woman reaches her sexual peak at 40 and all I remember hearing after that statement was a bunch of sounds like, “Wooo! Yes child!” and “It’s good!” All were good hints informing me that better sex is on the way.

Better sex? Sex in my 20’s were fantastic, some interludes were a little more rougher than others, but I became a lover of the cardio moments and I just wanted to know if sex tomorrow would still be marathon and WWE status or if it would turn into sweet, romance novel cardio with a side of grapes, olives and champagne. Well I can tell you this, sex at 40 surely includes grapes, olives, and champagne. I know because I brought them to my bedside and I consumed them. lol. Other than than, the changes from 20-somethings sex to 40’s-sex is not a sharp curve at all. In fact, I’m approaching it with speed and I’m wearing heels.

Perhaps it’s because I had a good 30-somethings sexual run? I used every year of that decade to make sure I fully understood all that I learned in my 20’s. I went over it and over it and… yeah, I think I understand the intro mechanics just well. I felt pretty well oiled and well versed on the subject.

So what about Sext at 40? What do you need to do and what do you need to know? Well, I don’t have all of the answers but I am willing to use myself, in research, to find out. For the good of us all — of course therefore, I thought I’d share this little treasure trove that I found on Prevention Magazine‘s site.  The information dealt seems to be geared to ‘helping the woman calibrate,’ but my darling men, if you want to ‘dazzle your bedmate with more understanding and connecting to her comfortability – then by all means, this is for you too.

The info is yummy, it’s funny and it’s prime for the picking.
This info is for you if you’re 40 and still ‘sticking:

“From sex myths to sexual etiquette to health-boosting bedroom tips, these are the truths about sex every woman should know.

1. He doesn’t care if you’ve shaved.
Really. It doesn’t even cross his mind.

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Shaving, laser, wax…


2. Wide beats long every time.
If you care at all about penis size (and studies show that women are far more into how penises look than how they’re hung), you know that width matters more than length.

3. All the girls are doing it.
Masturbating, that is. In a survey by AARP, nearly half the women between the ages of 45 and 49 said they had taken matters into their own hands in the previous 6 months. And many women have used more than just their hands. In a 2009 survey by the University of Indiana, more than half the respondents had used a vibrator at least once, and nearly one in four had used one in the previous month. (The pros know it, too. Here are 18 sex toys sex therapists love—and use themselves.)

4. He likes the cuddling part…
…and not just because he’s half comatose when you snuggle up after sex. During lovemaking, both men and women release the chemical oxytocin—the so-called “cuddle hormone” that helps new moms bond with their babies. So what does than mean for men? Oxytocin boosts their desire for intimacy, along with their feelings of trust, according to a 2008 study by the University of Zurich. And in this case, what’s good for the gander is good for the goose. Want to increase your cuddling power? Here are 10 science-backed ways to boost oxytocin levels.

5. You really can tell a guy’s size by his hands.
The longer a man’s ring finger, the longer his penis, a study by the University of Liverpool shows. Both are determined by the amount of testosterone he was exposed to in the womb. If his ring finger is the same size or smaller than his index finger, he received lower levels of testosterone. If it’s bigger…watch out!

6. It’s worth a try.
Variety is the spice of life…and of sex. Whether you do it in a hammock or an airplane; on the kitchen floor or in the shower; dressed in leather or in lace, if it’s new, it’s improved. (Get a little wild with these 11 new sex positions.)

7. Porn is hot.
The idea that women take longer to get aroused just isn’t true. Show us some skin and we’re off and running. In a 2007 study, women who watched porn got turned on as quickly as men did. Using thermal imaging technology, researchers at McGill University in Montreal found that while watching porn, men became fully aroused in 664.6 seconds (11 minutes), compared to women, who took 743 seconds (12 minutes).

8. Say Ohh instead of Ohm
Craving the calm you get from yoga? Go for an orgasm instead. You feel relaxed after climaxing because you were practically brain-dead while you were doing it. Using scans to measure brain activity, researchers from the Netherlands found that women experience no emotions during orgasm—including fear, anxiety and stress. When you’re in the throes, there’s no worrying about the kids’ report cards, the weekly grocery list or the pile of bills on your desk. But it’s a chicken and egg situation: The only way to reach orgasm is to clear your head of that stuff to begin with.

9. Faking it: pointless.
Showing him what you like; brilliant.

 

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Keep your socks on.

10. It’s better with your socks on.
If your sex life isn’t hot, it may be because you’re cold. Research from the Netherlands shows that couples with cold feet had a harder time reaching orgasm—only 50% made it. When couples put on socks, the number jumped to 80%. (Check out these 5 more tips to make sure you get there every time.)

11. Honesty: Not always the best policy.
So you’ve got thought about cheating—maybe even stolen a kiss or snuck out for coffee. Should you confess to make up for it? No way. Coming clean only inflicts pain on your partner and damages his sense of trust. If you want to protect him and keep your relationship going, swallow your guilt and keep your mouth shut.

12. Love is in the air…
…as long as your man doesn’t shower after his workout. The musky smell of male sweat can be a real turn-on for women. In a 2007 study from the University of California at Berkeley, the scent of a man boosted women’s sexual arousal, mood, heart rate, blood pressure, and breathing rate.

13. It’s never too late.
Even if having sex is something you do only on birthdays and Bastille Day, you can always get back on the stick. All you have to do is…have sex. You may have to force yourself at first, but the more you do it, the more you want to do it. Start with once a month, then once a week, and who knows? Maybe you’ll be a once-a-day woman. (Follow this plan to makeover your sex life in 14 days.)

14. When it comes to how big, how often, how many times in one night…
…your friends are lying.

15. Phone sex is worth trying.
It’s the next best thing to being there, but not that many forty-somethings know it. According to a survey by AARP, only 17% of men and 18% of women between the ages of 45 and 49 have had phone sex. (Check out 9 more ways to feel closer in 5 minutes.)

16. Nobody does it better than you.
You can lie around waiting for your partner to bring you to orgasm, but you’ll get there a lot faster if you take care of it yourself. When women masturbate, they typically climax in less than 4 minutes. When they’re engaged in foreplay and intercourse, it can take 20 minutes. Your best bet for a speedy climax: using a vibrator.

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October is a great time to “get into” costume… JOIN ME.

17. Fantasy is fabulous.
If your regular sex routine is a little stale, invite Johnny Depp and his pirate hat into bed with you. Losing yourself in a sex fantasy spices up the real thing, and boosts your overall sex drive. Sharing certain fantasies can add even more zip. In an ABC News poll, more than half of all men and women said they talk about their fantasies to boost their sex lives. The most common fantasies?  (Find out what your strangest sex preferences say about you, and how they can help your relationship.)

18. If you’re too tired, it’s too bad for him.
The best thing about getting older is that you can do—or not do—whatever you want. Say it nicely, and your partner should understand if you’ve got a headache or you want to binge-watch House of Cards instead of making love. Unless, of course, the marathon—or the headache—is a weekly event.

19. Size matters—to him.
A survey of 50,000 heterosexual men and women showed that the vast majority of women (85%) felt satisfied by their man’s size, while nearly half of all men (45%) were unhappy with their package. Let him know he’s all you need.

20. He doesn’t care…
…if you wear flannel to bed.”

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Now if upon these 20-points you did fairly score,
I applaud you with a tease – because there’s 20 MORE.

Where ever are they? You’re surely ready to read,
I figured I’d give them to you in a 2-part feed.

That way you won’t overload and to thyself lie,
about the 20 previous points that you may ‘overlook in try.’

It’s the weekend baby and wether or not you’re 40 – give it a go tonight,
I’m Qui
and Sex at 40 is quite the taunt party – as of late… just leave on the light.

Today: Utilize this info. in your bedroom.
Stay Tuned: because we’ll mount 20-MORE soon.

Partake in Pt.2