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4 of 11 ways To Feel Beautiful [Part 2]

In Self Improvement on March 12, 2010 at 4:17 am

Earlier this week we listed 4 of 11 Ways to Feel Beautiful and not one involved applying make-up. Pushing Forward:: we are adding another 4 ways to your “Self Improvement” plate. Bon appetite!

5. Breathe Deeply
Shallow breathing manifests itself as tension in your face, throat, even shoulders. On the other hand, when you take deep, slow breaths, you look and feel more at ease in your body.

6. Just say “THANKS”
When you complement a child on her dress, she doesn’t respond, “Oh, I don’t think it fits quite right.” (But she might say, “Thanks! And look at my shoes! And my braids! And did I tell you I’m the third tallest girl in my class?) Stop deflecting praise about your appearance. Simply say “thank you” when someone compliments your thick hair or sparkling eyes. You–and your admirer– will feel better about the exchange, creating positive reinforcement that makes you both want to give and receive compliments more often.

7. Wear Color
We’re not talking a fuchsia pantsuit. Just a pop of color — say, in a necklace or scarf– can light up your face, and your mood. Not sure what to add to your wardrobe of black and greige? Try blue: “It’s universally considered a ‘happy’ color, and there’s a shade that looks good on everyone,” says fashion stylist Joe Lupo, co author of Life In Color. If your skin tone is warm (it looks yellow-orange next to a piece of white paper), choose royal blues; If your complexion is cool (it has a more pinkish cast), try icier blues or aquas.

8. Loosen Up
“Body image can be externally influenced–by a number on a scale or an image in a mirror– but it’s also affected by physical sensations like discomfort”, says McGonigal. When you wear clothes in the smaller size that you want to be (or once were), the feeling of constriction sends a constant signal to your brain that you’re not thin enough. This isn’t an appeal for elastic waistbands (“Looking like a schlump won’t do much for your body image either”, McGonigal says), but for clothes that are both elegant and comfortable– in the size you are now.

Add a numerical point or two to your daily hue,
I’m Qui
A huge fan of a more Beautiful [me &] You.

Continue to Stay Tuned for the remaining 3 points –
We’ve got a positive jones for SELF IMPROVEMNT joints.

4 of 11 Ways to Feel Beautiful

In Self Improvement on March 7, 2010 at 10:29 pm


(not one point involves applying makeup)

I found an attractive positive points list in an O Magazine. There are 11 in all, but I have a feeling if I typed out an 11 point “honey do-to-yourself list” — many would likely stop short on the read either out of fear that “the contents look too long” or because “the list may actually help”. Feeling beautiful always helps and time put into the effort of doing so is not ever too long. You’re worth it. Enjoy!

1. Stand (And Sit) Tall
“Your brain is constantly checking in with the rest of your body to find out how you’re feeling.” says Kelly McGonigal, PhD, a health psychologist at Stanford University/. “When your posture is erect, the message it gets is: I feel good about myself“ One study, p;ublished last year in the European Journal of Social Psychology, found that subjects whgo sat up straight in their chairs instead of slouching were more confident about statements they wrote. Keeping your shoulders back and chest open also makes you look taller, slimmer, and radiantly self assured.

2. Be An Observant – Not a Judge
Don’t issue good/bad/pretty/ugly judgments when you look in the mirror. “If you have a scar, you can decide to see it as a flaw or simply as a memo9ry of an injury”, says Stacey Tantleff-Dunn, PhD, associate professor of psychology at the University of Central Florida and director of the Laboratory of the Study of Eating Appearance & Health. Try to take in your physical attributes the way you would those of a child or beloved friend – with appreciation and acceptance, not criticism.

3. Find Something to Admire — In Yourself
“Studies using eye-tracking technology have shown that people who are unhappy with their appearance zero in on their perceived flaws when they look in the mirror”, says Nancy Etcoff, PhD, director of the Program in Aesthetics and Well Being at Massachusetts General Hospital. Turn your gaze on the feature you like (we know you have at least one). “Wen your eyes take in something that pleases you, your brain’s reward system is activated, lifting your whole mood”, says Etcoff.

4. Put on a HAPPY FACE
“We all find smiling faces more attractive than nonsmiling ones”, says Paul Ekman, PhD, professor emeritus of psychology at the University of California San Francisco School of Medicine, who has studied facial expression for several decades. A smile not only lifts the muscles around the eyes and lips for a more youthful appearance, but also generates a feel-good ripple effect: Your brain gets an instant mood boost from the muscle contractions, and that boost is maintained as people smile back at you.

Add a numerical point or two to your daily hue,
I’m Qui
A huge fan of a more Beautiful [me &] You.

Please Stay Tuned for the remainder of the points
As I continue to serve these SELF IMPROVEMNT joints.