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Ask YOUR Daddy.

In Communication, Griot, Movies, Networking, Self Improvement on December 1, 2015 at 9:04 am

andy-rooney-typewriterI love people. I talk to as many as I can everyday. I initiate most of it, but am pleasantly surprised every time I’m approached by another who initiates communicative exchange with me. Especially intrigued by those who are in search of something more – knowledge.

Lately I’ve been spending a lot of time with Reel youth (young filmmakers) and they have a lot of questions. While the ladies talk more openly in open settings, the men prefer to listen, make brief remarks and then give me side-bar conversation before exiting or via email. The Reel youth are college age students; most single some coupled or married. One of the early married male students started side-bar chatter with me sometime ago about his budding relationship. His eyes were wide and love-filled but on a few occasions his eyes have been dim and near puddle-filled (tears) due to his domestic situations.

He let his guard down enough to allow me to recognize (via his conversation) that he is afraid that’s he’s not a good enough mate. He questions his effort every time he and his honey get into a spat, because it’s usually over his mistakes. What mistakes? Well if you’ve ever heard that MEN ARE MARS AND WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS, (or read the book) — then you can understand his position. He’s young. He just doesn’t know it’s not himit’s life. He who recognizes life, how she goes and how to harmoniously co-exist with is the one who will reap her goodness in every relationship they are connected to. broad-shoulders-proverbs-quote

BROAD PROVERBS. Yes, I know that last line sounded like a broad proverb, but it’s true. When the married male student side-bars me with his relationship whoas, all I ever think about is, “Man, he needs to talk to a man whose got his life together and under control.” I wish I could help him out, perhaps throw him a few words of assured wisdom as to how to approach his significant other, but I don’t have them. I am a female. I know how I like to feel in a relationship and the way he described the feelings of his wife, well, she sounded a lot like me in her requests. Her requests are simple to me, (be more affectionate, tell me that you love me, show me…etc), but he is at a complete lost on how to address them effectively.

In his head: he loves her, he tells her and he shows her. His wife is not in his head, she does not FEEL what he thinks. So, how can I possibly help?

I don’t know little dudes wife but of the questions and concerns that he has, I always want to respond, “That’s a good question – little dude. Now ask your daddy,” but I don’t know his daddy.

Today I was online and found an Andy Rooney write up that I think would be perfect for the young married Reel student and anyone else who could use a little bit of insight and wisdom into the “women folk,” how to stroke them and keep them content.

I’m already 40 and in this piece Andy mentions the age bracket, however, his wisdom is for the ages. If your lady isn’t 40, be good to her  and ride it out – and get there with her. You’ll be so glad you did. I am loving the “40-something uninhibitedness.” #NoLimits.

Andy Rooney was a writer and while he crossed over in November 2011, his writes remain. They are wisdom packed and I think they are pretty close to the words that any Dad would say…

As I grow in age, I value women who are over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:

A woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night to ask, “What are you thinking?” She doesn’t care what you think.

If a woman over 40 doesn’t want to watch the game, she doesn’t sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do. And, it’s usually something more interesting.

A woman over 40 knows herself well enough to be assured in who she is, what she is, what she wants and from whom. Few women past the age of 40 don’t give a damn about what you might think about her or what she’s doing.

Women over 40 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot you, if they think they can get away with it.

Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it’s like to be unappreciated.

A woman over 40 has the self-assurance to introduce you to her women friends. A younger woman with a man will often ignore even her best friend because she doesn’t trust the guy with other women. Women over 40 couldn’t care less if you’re attracted to her friends because she knows her friends won’t betray her.

Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40. They Always Know.

A woman over 40 looks good wearing bright red lipstick. This is not true of younger women.

Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 40 is far sexier than her younger counterpart.

Older women are forthright and honest. They’ll tell you right.

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Yo! I don’t mean to be bias – no, not at all,
but please take this wisdom without stall.

Utilize it like your dad did or meant to.
Do it for your wife – Do it for you.

The things that attract her, are the things you possess.
Take wisdom from another successful man and ADD IT to your vest.

Sure I’m 40 and I love it! I yield good conversation by the sum.
I’m Qui
saying asking your daddy baby, because when it come MAN WISDOM, I have none.
However, when your daddy talks… it effects me like #YUM.

The VIEW of a Happy Sister

In Communication, Griot, Networking, News, Self Improvement on August 16, 2012 at 10:12 am

Gotta Love Sherri Shepherd and the man that makes her happy. Are you still watching The View? If you’ve been missing it – now is a good time to DVR it. They are currently running reruns and I was able to catch Barack and Michelle Obama during their separate visits to the couch.

But let’s talk Sherri Shepherd and Lamar Sally, (her husband of a year now). Aren’t they cute? This month is their 1-year anniversary. Ebony Mag spoke with her recently and reports this:

s a little girl Sherri Shepherd would sit in front of two TV sets with her grandma — one tuned to a soap opera, the other to The Newlywed Game. It’s no wonder she’d grow up to be the hardest-working sister in TV; recurring guest appearances on 30 Rock, a spin on Dancing with the Stars. Heck even, her own wedding was broadcast last August on Style Network. Currently, Sherri 45, does double duty as co-host of The View and as host of The Newlywed Game. The Game Show Network’s modern take on the classic program showcases three newly married couples from diverse backgrounds who face off in a series of question rounds. During each segment, a spouse attempts to guess his or her mates answer to questions about their relationship, ranging from the first time they met to the details of their love life. The couple scoring the most points wins. “I get to have fun,” Shepherd said in 2010 when she landed the game-show gig. “I’m not going to be arguing with anybody about whether we should pull the troops out of Afghanistan.” As she and Sal celebrate their one-year anniversary this month, we thought the time was right to ask this newlywed a few questions:

The Newlywed Game has its share of blush-worthy-moments, yet seem unflappable.

Shepherd: I am absolutely unflappable … sometimes the answers are so stunning, I have to laugh. ONe man answered that his wife should stay home, have babies and do the dishes. I was so shocked, I had to walk over– in my flip-flops because I take off my six-inch heels when I’m standing — and hit him over the head with my cards!

Do you and Sal ever play the game at home and answer the questions?

Shepherd: We never play the game at home. … I don’t wan tto konw which of my three girlfriends Lamar would like to get with. Yuck, and creepy!

The questions are hilarious. Do you help write them?

Shepherd: We’ve got great writers who do very well without me.

Are you still in the honeymoon stage?

Shepherd: It’s difficult to stay in the honeymoon stage with a 7-year-old who constantly jumps in the bed with us. We try to keep a spark, but it seems as if every time we kiss, Jeffery bursts in the room and gives Sal a look that says, “She’s mine, dude!”

How do you think you two would fare as contestants on the show?

Shepherd I think we’d fail miserably… and leave the show saying, “I can’t believe you said that wasn’t Aunt Janelle’s real hair!”

What life lesson have you learned from hosting the show that you’ll apply in your own marriage?

Shepherd: Laugh a lot, have a sense of humor and treat each other kindly. That will outlast everything.

What’s the craziest question you’ve ever asked a couple?

Shepherd: “If hubby had to make an adult movie with one of his wife’s girlfriends, who would it be?” And the classic, “Where is the weirdest place you’ve ever made whoopie?”

Awwww. What about a touching moment between you and your new husband?

Shepherd: Valentine’s Day was coming. I gave Sal a certificate to a spa and he never mentioned anything to me. I was on ‘The View’ on February 14th feeling very blue. Whoopie [Goldberg] kept asking me what Sal did for Valentine’s Day, and I was trying to put on a brave face as I evaded the question. All of a sudden, the lights went low “My Girl” started playing, and there was Sal in a tuxedo with roses in his hands singing the song to me. I burst into tears, because Sal doesn’t do in-front-of-the-camera stuff. So for him to step out of his comfort zone to serenade me [was] priceless. He had my heart.

How might you celebrate your anniversary?

Shepherd I’m surprising Sal with a trip to a remote island. Between the sun, the pina coladas and the atmosphere, hopefully, I’ll come back pregnant!

We wish Sherri well! It’s good to be happy.
Sherri looks great with her ‘Main Squeeze Daddy’.

I don’t keep up with her as much as I should; to stalk is to be lame.
Thus I missed the break-out news about her hosting The Newlywed Game.

All the same she is still gaming – as well as co-hosting The View,
I’m Qui
Happy like Sherri
& ENCOURAGING you to be too. Ooo!


DANCE IT OUT


Sherri & Sal get down at their wedding reception.
Check ’em out!